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|Mon, 07-12-2010 - 12:30pm|
I need some advice on what to do about my boyfriend that has a drinking problem. When I first met him about ten months ago he did tell me he used to have a drinking problem a few years back, but he didn't drink anymore. About three months later, he went on a drinking binge and ended up in the hospital. At the time I didn't know it was happening until after he got out of the hospital. He had lied and said he was 'sick' which explained his absence, sleeping for three days straight, etc.. I eventually found out, and after much begging, and swearing it would never happen again, I let it go.
Well, in the six months since then he's had at least four instances where he has drank to the point of having to be in bed for a couple days and then being 'sick' for a least a week. I can always tell when he's been drinking since his whole personality changes. He never drinks in front of me, or in my house. When he's not drinking he's a sweet, caring, good man, who I have grown to love. He goes to therapy often, and keeps telling me he's going to stop, but so far I don't see any sign of that. I can't help but feel helpless, and hopeless. I don't want to grow much more attached to him only to have to leave him. He's always so remorseful after he drinks, and he claims he doesn't want to lose me, and he'll do anything to make me happy, etc. I just don't believe him anymore. He has ruined that trust and I don't know if I can deal with this.
I know I can't make him change, and only he can help himself, but I feel like the addiction is stronger than he is. Any help or advice, or anyone in a similar situation, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks