He quits drinking, I have to be perfect?
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|Sun, 07-25-2010 - 12:58pm|
Hi, looking for some advice!
My husband quit drinking 3 months ago. It was bad news for him. He didn't drink every day, but when he did, he wouldn't stop until he was obliterated. He would get drunk at home, drive to the bar then stay out all night...let's just say it led to other things.
Anyways. He quit drinking but has not gotten help. At the beginning he said he fully intended to go to AA, but he hasn't. I haven't pushed the issue because finally after 12 years of marriage I realized this has to be all about him. My choices are stay or leave...the rest is up to him.
He has been a real nightmare to live with lately. He constantly throws in my face the fact that he quit drinking, and I'm not doing anything to better our relationship. His main issues are that I don't make enough money and I work too many hours. I make more money than he does, but my company has not lived up to the financial commitments they made (in this economy, go figure). My job has never been 9-5...accept it and move on.
He expects life to be neat and orderly. If the house is too messy, the kids are too loud, he loses it. He expects the fridge to be full and all the bills to get paid without spending any money.
Is this normal? I really don't know how to deal with this!