question about a dh not on board...

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question about a dh not on board...
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 2:38pm

So, part of the reason I started SB is because my dh was diagnosed type 2 diabetic.  He always tells me that he'll eat whatever I put in front of him but then whines when I bring home healthier foods.


I guess I'm just trying to figure out a way to make him understand that just because it says "whole wheat" or it isn't the processed junk he grew up on, it can still taste good.


I stopped by the grocery store last night and when I got home he was digging through the bags and said, "did you buy anything that *I* like?"  I bought natural PB, spelt spaghetti, whole wheat bread, a couple SBD frozen meals, Red Mill WW pancake mix, and some organic tomato soup.  Oh, and some rye bread (that one's for me...I love rye bread!).  Nothing to weird, right??  I'm frustrated and feel like my "arguments" fall on deaf ears.  I think he gets it from his mom though so it is deeply ingrained that if it's not what he normally eats then it must be disgusting.  I will admit that I have brought some odd things in the house before because I wanted to try them (I am more adventurous that way) and some of them were pretty nasty...but a lot of them have become staples.


I just need some advice here.  I'm not trying to force him to do SB but I know that it would be really great for him.  Do I just lead by example and hope he'll get it?  Do I sit him down like a child and have a heart to heart with him?  The problem I've had with him (and I've told him this) is that even when I do make dinner (even pre-SBD) he doesn't eat it and ends up with fast food or something else.  I work in the evening so I'm not home to "police" him...lol.  Am I being a control freak??  I don't know what to do.


Okay, I feel like I've said the same thing about 20 times in this post...lol.  Any advice???


Sarah

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 2:43pm

Without knowing what motivates your DH, it's kind of hard to know how to answer it.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:47pm
My husband was diagnosed
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:15pm

I'm with Misty on this.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:15pm

Hmmm...I wonder if maybe a few more 'cheat' type foods being made available for now would make him more accepting of the ww/organic foods? Maybe you've already done that?


For me, it's so hard to not have at least a few illegal goodies in the house (though I have too many at the moment). If I don't have at least a few things that are border line (even though I don't eat them) in the house, then I'll tend to feel deprived automatically and end up running out and bingeing. But that's how my weird mind works. LOL


Do you make plenty of things like sirloin cheeseburgers and chili's and such, that are manly comfort foods and feel like he's eating what he'd always want to? Or is he just mentally allergic to the whole thing no matter what?

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:26pm

My DH also claims that he will eat anything I put in front of him, BUT: that does not mean he won't gripe.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 6:21pm

I just wanted to echo what the others said and share some of my own experience.


My DH is not overweight and he has never had any desire to try the SBD.

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Thu, 03-27-2008 - 7:26am

Sarah,


Here's a thought for you.

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Thu, 03-27-2008 - 9:46am
I think in the case of dealing with a dh who has an illness like diabetes your first line of defense would be his doctor. I'm assuming his doctor has him on a dietary program, he checks his blood sugar regularly, etc. I think you need to really work with his doctor to help him understand that in the case of diabetes its not just about looks or weight - its about his life. Literally a matter of life and death. I understand not "forcing" - but if my dh had a condition like that I would consider it extremely irresponsible to me, our kids and our marriage if he was not willing to do what it takes to keep him healthy.
















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Thu, 03-27-2008 - 1:31pm

I have to jump into the diabetes conversation, as usual.

 
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Thu, 03-27-2008 - 1:57pm

"He honestly didn't know the difference.