OT -- Support Needed

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OT -- Support Needed
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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 7:39pm

My Dh Mark called me on my way home from work to let me know where he'll be for the evening.


His dad has been at an assisted living place that specialized in alzheimers/dementia patients.  In addition to the alzheimers/dementia, his dad has cancer.  He's actually had various types for almost 20 years, and the latest things they decided not to do anything except monitor due to his overall health not being good.  In addition to the cancer stuff, he also has emphasyma (sp?) and maybe even other things.


At any rate, Mark was at the assisted living place, with his mom, waiting for an ambulance to come take his dad to the hospital.  He's been going downhill the past few days, and I guess today he's leaning really bad to one side and isn't doing well.  It was also determined, at least that's my understanding, that his lymphatic system has been affected by everything.  I don't know if that exactly means the cancer is in that system, but I think it does.


At any rate, all the prayers that can be mustered right now will be appreciated.  It would truly take a miracle, which I know is possible, to turn things around dramatically.  Prayers for wisdom for the medical staff and peace for the family are really what's needed right now.  Pray, too, that I'll be able to provide the necessary support to Mark no matter what the outcome is.


Needless to say, I'm a bit of a wreck right now, and I'm home and away from it all.  I'm going to go out to Target with Marisa and work on her Wish List for Christmas.  She knows nothing -- at 7 she doesn't need to yet -- but Anthony (19) and Nick (17) are aware of what's going on.  I'm so thankful that my parents are in better health than Mark's.  That may sound selfish, but I think everyone reading this knows what I mean.


Sorrythis was so long.  It was hard to find all the right words.  Thanks in advance.  God Bless!!!

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Registered: 06-29-2005
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 7:50pm
You have all my positive thoughts coming your way. I hope things all turn out for the best. I know how frustrating and helpless it can seem to not be with Mark and his parents, but you are doing a great job holding down the fort and being there for your children. Hugs!

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 8:04pm

Nancy,


Big hugs.

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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 8:04pm

Positive thoughts from me too!! Miracles can happen and many times patients take a turn for the better and hold on for longer than anyone would think. Being there for Mark when he needs to talk and for the boys is a good place for you. Hang in there!!!


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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 11:23pm

Nancy, sending my prayers and positive thoughts to you and your family.




 

 


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Fri, 10-03-2008 - 11:42pm

Hey Nancy,

I'm sorry to hear about Mark's Dad. I know this is tough. I've been there with my own Father and with DH's father as well. Rest assured that my thoughts and prayers are with you all in this difficult time. Please keep us up-to-date on your FIL's condition.

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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 9:47am

Thanks to all for your support.

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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 12:40pm

Nancy -


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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 2:00pm
Nancy, I am sending lots of positive energy and hugs your way.
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Sun, 10-05-2008 - 9:03am

Nancy, I'm sending positive thoughts your way too.

 
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Mon, 10-06-2008 - 1:51am
Nancy, I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL. My dad has been battling cancer for the past 4 years, and is now at the terminal stage, so I know how difficult it is and how helpless it feels to watch a loved one go downhill. P&PTs to you and your family.

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