DH is sabotaging my diet!!!

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Registered: 11-18-2003
DH is sabotaging my diet!!!
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Mon, 04-04-2005 - 5:40pm

DH and I started SBD together and both lost 30 lbs. Well he decides it is super easy so starts cheating and eating crap food and little by little gains back 15 lbs. Now he keeps buying junk food and stocking the house with it. I am having such a HARD time keeping my hands off of the cookies or chips. Saturday he asked me to cook mashed potatoes and it was all I could do to keep from piling them on my plate. Then to top it off Star Wars is having this stupid food promotion and so he keeps buying bags of M&M's and skittles and cheetos and cheeze its and leaving them laying around to be eaten! I feel like I have been sent to dieter's hell LOL! Last week I told him to take all of the food to work and give the candy away so it isn't in the house. Then yesterday he came home with a big bag full.


ACK! How do I get the man to eat healthy again and keep the junk food out of the house!



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Aimee Mom to Marah Jade (5) and Quinlan (22 months)
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Registered: 12-19-2002
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 6:10pm

Hi Aimee,


I think the important thing is to figure out what's going on with him.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 12:05am

There is no doubt that your husband is being unhelpful. It would be helpful to know why he has made a drastic change. He should worry about his health more. He wants to be there when you daughter walks down the isle or when she gives you grandchildren. I know that for me, I just thought about my own pleasure from food and did not think about the harm it was doing to me. He does need to get back on the diet, but if he will not, do not let that keep you from going on.

I have been on Southbeach for about 13 monthes, I have lost 90 pounds so far, I have about 10 to go. I am married to a skinny woman, who can eat about anything and it does not affect her. I also have 3 kids, a 8, 6, & 3. They eat kids stuff. When I went on this, I said that I was not going to make them change everything they eat for my sake.

I do ask a few things, like keep the candy hidden in the cabinet. Make sure that there is enough foods around that I can eat and enjoy.

I think the thing that helped me the most was when I realized that cravings are just a part of life. They are not a result of the diet. I remembered when I would be stuffed and could not eat another bite, but I would still want more. I now understand that cravings are just things to deal with, not things to give in to. I will always have them, but I do not have to give into them. The cravings will get better about 6 or so months into it, I have lost most of my cravings, even for the things I used to love. (Ok, I admit, I still crave french fries.) It also helps to make myself something nice every now and then that I can enjoy, some of the deserts in the SouthBeach cookbook.

Hang in there! You cannot be responsible for his actions, only for your own. What you have already done is wonderful, keep looking at the accomplishments that you have and remind yourself how much healthier you are. Focus on what you need to do, not what he is doing.

I hope this helps and I hope he will change

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Registered: 09-20-2001
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 4:08am

I'm sorry your DH is affecting you so much. I personally refuse to cook unhealthy things so if he wants mashed potatoes then I think you need to tell him to make them himself. Also, I would suggest that you give him his own personal cabinet space for junk food and keep the door closed.

Don't let your health be affected by others.

Sheneq
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Registered: 04-01-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 7:57am

Hi sb-slim,


Welcome!

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 2:55pm

sb-slim,


Welcome to our board!