i love my sister

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Registered: 03-20-2005
i love my sister
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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 5:17pm
hey everyone. i seriously think my sister may have just saved my sanity. i have been dieting for months now (almost a year) but have been very strict for 4 or 5 months now. i've asked a million and one questions of all of you and you have all been so wonderful to me. but honestly, these last few months have been, well quite frankly they've sucked! i'm tired constantly, i never have energy, i feel guilty with every single thing i put into my mouth, my muscles hurt and my skin except for my face is starting to break out. my older sister Lauren (who first told me about SB) has told me(not that i really needed to be told) that i have abused this diet. i have been in P2 for weeks now and should have been eating 3 fruits and 3 grains per day for weeks, and i've been having 5 berries, if any a day for fruit, and 1/2 cup Fiber One for all my grain for the day. Lauren told me that my body is fighting me and if i dont start re-introducing all the good foods and nutrients my body is missing, all my weight will rebound. im crying at the thought of regaining my weight back. ive worked so hard and come so far. she also told me that my body is hooked on artifical sweetners and thats why i binge on the "diet friendly" foods like low carb ice cream. im going to stop using Splenda for a while and cut back drastically on my diet soda(i have about 8 glasses A DAY!) i have totally ruined my diet. i need to start all over again. why couldnt i have just been healthy from the beginning?? why am i so obsessed with losing weight?? im at a "healthy" weight right now, but it doesnt seem to matter
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Registered: 04-01-2005
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 8:44pm

Hi!


Your sister is right in many ways - you DO need to add the fruit and fiber. Plus, you need to add more dairy and protein to your diet! Why don't you post your meals for the next few days. If you can, post them in advance. If that's too tough, just post what you have eaten and we can offer suggestions.


I'm not sure I agree with your being addicted to artificial sweetners or if that is why you are 'bingeing' on ice cream. Splenda is made from sugar and is supposedly ok - however, let's see what they say about that 20 years from now! I DO think that 8 glasses of diet soda may be overdoing it though. How about water instead????


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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 10:08pm

Hi Kerry,


Words of wisdom from your older sister.

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 10:38am

Kerry,


You are getting great advice here.

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Registered: 03-20-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 5:28pm
you are all so wonderful, you all honestly seem to care more about me than my own mother(theres a story for next time) it just seems like everytime i go food shopping with her or she sees me eating she comes and says to me, "you're always eating! thats all i ever see you do! you're always hungry!" and i break down and cry. i wanna look good this summer, but i want to be healthy. i had my fiber one for breakfast, a bunch of steamed veggies for lunch, too many peanuts(a binge) when i got home and im not sure what to have for dinner. veggies and something ill figure it out. i had 2 cans of soda before, and thats what im going to leave it at per day, i drink wayyyyy too much and just have water from now on. i really hate feeling out of control with the way i eat, and i think thats why i started to abuse this diet to begin with, i was losing weight fast, and i was in control. my food and weight was the one thing i alone could control.
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Registered: 04-01-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 6:24pm

Kerry,


Just remember what Maggie said: you are not really bingeing. You probably feel out of control because you aren't eating enough during the day. I do the same thing - sometimes I don't eat much during the day, and then I overeat in the late afternoon, before dinner.

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Registered: 05-03-2005
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 8:10pm

Kerry,

I hope what I write here doesn't offend you, but when I read your post, my first thought was "Praise God for your sister!"

Sometimes we get so fixated on something (like losing weight) that we lose focus on the important things --like being healthy and enjoying life. Don't start over -- use this as the starting block to a fresh way of looking at the whole "diet" concept. {Remember, diet is a 4-letter word ;) } Look at this as the way to a healthy lifestyle, instead.

Blessings to you, and to your sister for loving you enough to correct things she saw,

Nancy

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Registered: 04-19-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:47pm
So glad to hear that your sis gave you a wake up call. You are too special to be abusing your body by not giving it the proper nutrients. Do the dieting for you, not for an image society feeds you. Another thing, I write in what I eat for the day in a Word doc and I also track how long I have been on the diet as well. It helps me save time and make sure I have the right type/amount of food for the day. I suggest you do that. Seeing what you eat might be helpful. Make sure that if you do this, that you feel GOOD about seeing more food on the list - don't think you ate too much. As long as you stick to the guidelines and realize that your body needs all that food, I'm sure you'll be perfectly fine. Best wishes, and keep posting. We are all behind you.