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Hanging in there
| Thu, 02-09-2006 - 12:15pm |
There's no "emoticon" for how I feel today. I'm glad to report a 3.5 lb loss at my "official" weigh in at the dr. office this morning. That's a lb. less than I had seen on Friday (4.5) when I did my own "unofficial" weigh in there. Of course, Friday's weight was after a more than 12 hour fast for blood work and last night I ate a very late dinner. I know that easily accounts for the one pound difference, but I'm still feeling as though my bubble has burst - mainly because my MD showed no enthusiam at all over my "success" and really offered no encouragement - his attitude kind of sounded like "You've tried before and failed, so let's not get our hopes up this time". I'm also getting nothing but complaints from hubby and son because I'm refusing to keep the kitchen stocked up with junk foods and sweet desserts/snacks. They make fun of me riding my new exercise bike and even use it as a coat rack and pile things around it that I have to move before I can get on it. Sticking to the program is hard enough without having to endure all the aggravation and lack of support. Both hubby and son also need to lose weight and neither has a clue how to even spell the word exercise, let alone participate! And my dr. has acquired a prominate expansion over his beltline since I saw him 3 months ago. Maybe they are all afraid that I will finally succeed and make them look/feel worse than they already do, so they will do what they can to keep me from my goals. Well, I know that I can not continue my life of arthritic pain and anxiety about body image and health problems. Nobody can fix this for me - I ate my way into this shape and I'm the only one who can do something about changing that! With or without their help! Can we hear a big YGG? (You Go, Girl!)

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Hi Cville1,
I wanted to offer you my support and to tell you that you are doing GREAT!
Yes you should be getting support from your family and from your Doc,<------ especially him!
Im sorry that you are having to deal with this, but you should just ignore all of the bad vibes and just remember how this is something that you will benifit from and believe me losing some pounds will make your pain feel much better that your having. About the sweets and junk in the house, well I cant help you there, I do have some crap in my house that my fiance eats and it doesnt bother me at all because I know what Im doing is better for me. Your doing great though, keep up what your doing. Exercising is very good for you and Im sorry they make fun of you while your doing it, that is kinda mean of your family to do. BIG HUGS to you! I think you are right about what you said when you were talking about everyone getting jealous that you just might succeed. Stay here with us on this board, we will be here for you. I wish you the very best and keep motivated after all you are shedding some weight and that is what counts....
~Smiles~
Lisa
Keep it up, you are doing so good :)!!!!! Just keep thinking how much healthier you are becoming because of the choices you are making. Your family should support you, but if they don't remember we are all supporting you!!!
Big Hugs,
Amy :)
((Hugs)) to you!
We all have those times when we question what we're doing and get mad at ourselves for getting to this point in the first place..."oh if only..." seems to become our favorite expression.
Don't let others or your own mind beat you up.
Amen to what Amy said and YOU GO GIRL!
I am sorry your guys are not being kind to you. You should still feel proud of the progress you have made. 3.5 lbs lost is moving in the right direction and we are all proud of the hard work you've done! Stick to your guns about the grocery shopping and your DH & DS will benefit, whether they like it or not! :-P
While you train them to keep their junk off your exercise bike, maybe you can look at it as a few extra calories burned each time you have to clear it off to use it? ;-) I know it's aggravating (I can be very territorial about my spaces) but sometimes all you can do is laugh it off or you will go crazy. Eventually they'll see you are serious (or get tired of you throwing their stuff in a pile...down the stairs?...on the front lawn? LOL ;-) and respect your bike.
Keep up the good work & here's to another successful weigh in next time! :-)
At their basest selves, men can be very selfish. What you are doing right now, focusing on yourself and your well being instead of devoting all waking hours and energy on *their* well being, is different from the status quo. Change can be a fear-inducing thing. Have you talked to them about why you are doing South Beach, or did you just start on your own? Do they understand that having a healthier wife and mom in the house (leaner, more energetic, sexier, etc.) will benefit them as well??? That's been the biggest point that my DH has "gotten" -- he really gets that I'm doing this as much for him and my kids as I am for myself.
I agree with the previous poster about throwing their stuff out on the lawn... is the exercise bike near a window?? LOL Still, sigh, they are men. They sometimes just don't see what's right in front of their eyes. Their radars aren't attuned as much to their surroundings as ours are, generally. Maybe you could post a big red sign with a humorous (not angry) message on the handlebars or seat, or put some masking tape on the floor around the bike so they see a physical boundary line?
As far as keeping "bad" food in the house, I may not go the popular route on this but is it really fair for one person to dictate what everyone else is allowed to eat? Personally I don't think so. Of course that depends somewhat on how old your son is, but your husband is an adult and should be able to make his own (stupid) decisions. My DH can have his Doritos, Cheez-Its, beer, etc. He just keeps them stashed in the basement where I'm unlikely to come across it. Hopefully you can set a good example, but as the saying goes, "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink".
Glad you vented, hope you can strengthen your resolve to continue to do good things in the future. Oh yeah, and change doctors -- that guy sounds like an ass.
Good luck!!!
Mags
Hi cville, here is a big ((((HUG))))) and a "You Go Girl", for you!
I just wanted to add my support.
I really like that!
I'm EVOLVING!!! I'll add that to Resolving to stick to my diet revolution! Cool!
Thanks to everyone for the support! I was feeling really low these past few days - too many things on my plate with a distant parent in the hospital, sibling squabbles over her care and the usual struggles at home and job. I have to remember that I will probably need that towel to cry on and wipe away the sweat - - instead of "throwing it in".
Yep - I'm going to EVOLVE like one of Darwin's birds and become what I need to be - fit, healthy, and pain free!
"I may not go the popular route on this but is it really fair for one person to dictate what everyone else is allowed to eat? Personally I don't think so."
No, I don't either, but the way I read it was DH was mad that *she* wasn't buying it. If I'm doing the shopping, I have no obligation to buy food that I know is nutritionally deficient and damaging to my family. If my adult DH wishes to binge on Mt. Dew on a daily basis, that's his business. But he has to make the effort to drive to the store for it because I don't monitor his intake and I have no idea when/how much to buy. Passive-agressive? Perhaps, but it's out of my house. I don't have to be tempted and a good example is set for my kids. *shrug* I tell my picky eater DS all the time that mommy provides him with healthy food that's good for his body; it's his choice whether to eat it or not, but I've done my job by putting it on the table. :-)
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