Hanging in there

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Registered: 01-19-2006
Hanging in there
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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 12:15pm
There's no "emoticon" for how I feel today. I'm glad to report a 3.5 lb loss at my "official" weigh in at the dr. office this morning. That's a lb. less than I had seen on Friday (4.5) when I did my own "unofficial" weigh in there. Of course, Friday's weight was after a more than 12 hour fast for blood work and last night I ate a very late dinner. I know that easily accounts for the one pound difference, but I'm still feeling as though my bubble has burst - mainly because my MD showed no enthusiam at all over my "success" and really offered no encouragement - his attitude kind of sounded like "You've tried before and failed, so let's not get our hopes up this time". I'm also getting nothing but complaints from hubby and son because I'm refusing to keep the kitchen stocked up with junk foods and sweet desserts/snacks. They make fun of me riding my new exercise bike and even use it as a coat rack and pile things around it that I have to move before I can get on it. Sticking to the program is hard enough without having to endure all the aggravation and lack of support. Both hubby and son also need to lose weight and neither has a clue how to even spell the word exercise, let alone participate! And my dr. has acquired a prominate expansion over his beltline since I saw him 3 months ago. Maybe they are all afraid that I will finally succeed and make them look/feel worse than they already do, so they will do what they can to keep me from my goals. Well, I know that I can not continue my life of arthritic pain and anxiety about body image and health problems. Nobody can fix this for me - I ate my way into this shape and I'm the only one who can do something about changing that! With or without their help! Can we hear a big YGG? (You Go, Girl!)

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Registered: 01-19-2006
In reply to: cville1
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 7:13pm
I do all the food purchasing and cooking. My older daughter helps a lot, but she's away at college right now, leaving me to deal with hubby and son (age 17). During Phase I (I just started Phase II this week), I cooked my SB meal for 3.5 people since the guys eat a bit more than I do and I added some kind of starch dish for them (potato, rice, pasta). The idea was to use up the starchy ingredients that didn't agree with phase II and replace them with whole grains approved for "the long haul" of phase II. The bread was easy, though my son still grumbles about eating "healthy stuff". They do miss white potatoes and white rice and there's minimal grumbling about whole wheat pasta. The most grief I get is about the missing carton of ice cream, snack cakes, sugary juice....I'm surprised that there hasn't been much said about the missing soda. I told them - You both have a driver's license and a car - if you want it that bad, go out and get it yourself! But, that's even more of a bother for them, so they just sit here and grumble. You would think hubby would at least support the idea that I'm spending less than HALF as much on groceries!
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Registered: 01-19-2006
In reply to: cville1
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 7:17pm
I'm thinking about hanging out with a bunch of old ladies at the assisted living place down the street - get myself some REAL HUGS! I think that's what I really need- I'm certainly not getting any here at my house! ;p
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Registered: 01-19-2006
In reply to: cville1
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 7:35pm
Hubby and son, 17, both have driver's licenses - I told them they can "have their cake and eat it, too" it's just that I'm not spending MY money on it for them to eat. You want it that bad - go down the road and get it yourself. They both refuse to go to the store with me to pick out what they want, so I told them that I am shopping according to what I can have on my diet. They are both overweight - my son is in danger of becoming diabetic if he does not improve his habits soon. I have not specified to them that I am "putting them on MY diet", but, if they want to eat dinner, they will have to eat what I prepared or make something else for themselves. Hubby did come home with a 3 lb package of hotdogs and white bread rolls on Friday - that's fine with me because I really don't like hot dogs at all! My son went out with friends yesterday and had pizza - again, fine - I didn't have to buy, cook, smell, or clean up after it. They just have to adjust to the whole grains instead of white breads and rice and a total lack of their familiar white potatoes mashed, fried, or covered in sauce or mayo. Even more grumbling about the missing carton of ice cream - good grief! I must have spent $15 - $20 a week on ice cream!!! Neither of them has taken me up on my dare to try the SB ricotta desserts or other treats from the recipes. I've offered them a taste, I offer to make some for them - but it's a no go. They want Turkey Hill. There's also several boxes of instant pudding in the cupboard and plenty of milk and coolwhip in the freezer - they can't be bothered fixing it for themselves, so let them grumble~
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Registered: 01-19-2006
In reply to: cville1
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 8:07pm
Thanks, Maggie
The guys discovered some uneaten SuperBowl munchies over the weekend, so it's been pretty quiet here. Kind of reminds me of the dog - throw him a small biscuit and he thinks he's in a bone pile! I am still getting noise about the lack of ice cream - they refuse to make the instant pudding (how hard is that?) and they refuse to drive down the road and get their precious ice cream. So - suffer! I've invited them to go shopping with me and pick out what they want...but it's not worth their time and effort. So, I'm buying what's on my list. If they want something else, they can either go to the store with me or on their own (both drive and have cars). Hubby has cholesterol problems and both hubby and son are overweight. They are not going to be blaming me for their condition any more! If I can lose weight on what I'm buying, preparing, and eating and I'm making the same available to them, then I no longer have any guilt about slowly causing their deaths with sugar and fat laden meals. Hubby did make an effort to buy what he wanted - he came home on Friday with a 3 lb. package of hotdogs and white bread rolls. Fine - I don't even like hotdogs, so it's no temptation to me!
I have to be sure to make out my menu at least for 3 days at a time - I'm leaving too much to "chance" and treated my first week on Phase II much too casually. Some of my stress issues (sick parent at a distance, things going on at work) have eased up a bit. If I get my plan in writing and commit to doing my exercise...well, it will only take 10 minutes to get back on the right track!
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Registered: 01-20-2006
In reply to: cville1
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 8:45pm
You sound like you have a good plan! Just keep with it and it will get easier & easier. It is hard for the guys to change, but I bet when they see your progress, and maybe even make a bit of their own thanks to your efforts in the kitchen, they will start to come around. It sounds like a life or death issue in your house so I still think you are right to stick to your guns about the junk food! Especially since they are too lazy to go get it themselves LOL! You are doing right by your men, whether they fully appreciate it right now or not. *hugs*
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In reply to: cville1
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 11:02pm
You go, girl!!!!!
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 7:36am

"I tell my picky eater DS all the time that mommy provides him with healthy food that's good for his body; it's his choice whether to eat it or not, but I've done my job by putting it on the table."

I'll have to remember this the next time my picky ds starts complaining about his food options. Fortunately he's old enough to make something for himself if he really doesn't want to eat what I make. He moans and groans an awful lot, especially on weekends, but overall I know that I'm doing the right thing. Eventually he'll broaden his food likes, but for now, if he eats cereal for dinner once or twice a week, I can live with that. Since I buy the cereal, I still have some control over even that type of food.

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