My 16 yr old son is driving me bonkers!!

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Registered: 10-14-2004
My 16 yr old son is driving me bonkers!!
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Tue, 11-29-2005 - 10:45am
I have an 8 yr old son and a 16 yr old son. Both are great in school and stay out of trouble. My dilema is: My oldest son is such a smart-mouth, door slamming in brother's face, angry boy. Since he was about 10 yr old!! My husband is no help, for the first 10 yrs, hubby never did much disciplining, I did it all. He pretty much didn't have much to do with kids. The next 6 yrs hubby, all of a sudden, babies oldest son and gets extremely angry with me when I discipline. I admit, I yell when sons are being smart-mouth and I avoid oldest son when he's being a brat, but hubby tells me , he can't believe I act like this. Hubby actually tries to correct me in front of sons when I'm disciplining. Oldest son doesn't have any respect for me, because he knows his dad will take up for him and shoot me down when I'm disciplining. I get so angry. Hubby even get angry with me, if I knock on the bathroom door when son has been in the shower already 30 minutes. I'm just so sick of it!! I know I've rambled. Any advice? Thanks in advance.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 12:58pm

How sad that your husband won't present a united front in front of the kids and if he has issues with what you say or do, discuss it privately.

Reading material to consider (I love these books):
Five Love Languages of Teenagers, Gary Chapman (He also has one for Children and relationships)
How to Really Love your Teenager, Ross Campbell

I borrowed both from the Library, best thing I ever did.


Carrie

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 11-29-2005 - 1:22pm

this is a bit messy. your 16