DD breaking up with FWB

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Registered: 02-18-2005
DD breaking up with FWB
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 7:04am

DD said she found out last night that her FWB "likes" someone else. She is sad and feels "manipulated and strung along". She says He can't have the 'fun' if he likes someone else, but is sad he didn't decide to 'like' her. Unfortunately, that what I would have predicted would happen (and what all of you warned about a couple of weeks ago), but she didn't want to hear it from me and was hoping he'd see how wonderful she is and 'ask her out'. Fortunately, she's got a great group of friends (boys and girls) to rally around her.

Sue

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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 9:20am
I'm sorry to hear that sue although not surprised.
Pam
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Registered: 12-22-2003
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 9:59am

I'm sorry your DD is hurting today! This whole FWB thing seems like it can only cause heartache somewhere down the road for those who participate. I hope this practice has a short life-span.

{{Hugs}}

Julie

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Registered: 05-17-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 10:07am

I hate to hear that! I hope she learned a lesson from this relationship. I know it is hard to watch them learn these lessons, but I remember learning a few of those lessons as a teen. They certainly stuck with me longer than some of the things that were said to me!

Michelle

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Thu, 12-08-2005 - 8:14pm
I'm sorry for your dd. I really believe there is no such thing as fwb. It is my sincere hope that she moves on and learns.
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Registered: 07-01-2003
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 9:47am

Let me clarify: You can not "break up" with a FWB. The point of FWB is that there is not an attachment here! Your DD hopefully learned that she is not the type of girl that can have this kind of relationship! That does not mean that there are not tons of people out there that thoroughly enjoy this kind of relationship and do not get hurt!

Laura

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Registered: 05-17-2005
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 9:54am

>>Your DD hopefully learned that she is not the type of girl that can have this kind of relationship!<<

Yes, and I hope that my own DD is never that "type of girl" either! Hugs to Sue and her DD, and here's to hoping that her DD did learn that she has a better grasp on life now!

>>The point of FWB is that there is not an attachment here!<<

I am not trying to argue here and I am not trying to offend you, but I believe that the point is that this teen did have an attachment. I, also, believe that no matter how much people lie to themselves when they are in this kind of relationship (and I do believe it is a relationship) that most of them will form an attachment of some type.

Michelle