Thank you all so much for your thoughts and well wishes for dd16. She couldn't get an appt to see the breast surgeon until this Thursday, so we don't really know much yet. Her breasts are still sore and still have that blood/oozing thing going on. Her hygiene habits are not the best so I have to remind her daily to clean the area and put the salve on it. (where is the rolling eye icon now?).
DD18 is still broken up with her controlling BF, thank heavens. However, her best GF has taught her how to pick up guys....oh brother. The other night, while I was away for the night out of town with my own gf's, DD and her friend went to a local Chili's and dd left her phone number for the waiter and her friend told him that dd thought he was HOT. He called her back in and asked them to go to a party that night, they went. DD actually called me to tell about this and was so excited...I barely stumbled out the words, "please be careful and make your curfew". She was careful and made her curfew fine H said. But, I know the waiter and there is no way he's under 25. I don't particularly want my 18dd hanging our and partying with 25 y/o guys. That means that he has at least 5-7 years experience on her - she's only gone steady with the controlling BF and JUST broke up! So, last night dd and I had a chat. It was short and sweet. I told her I thought it was good for her to go out with friends, meet new people and perhaps date. But I didn't approve of her seeing men who are so much older than her. I reminded her that she must be a little more prudent about giving her number to strangers and always make sure she has a friend she can trust with her to leave with, etc. She actually said thanks and then asked what she could say to this waiter guy to make him stop calling her. Apparently, he really wants to see her again. She isn't interested in being his GF, just wanted to meet someone new and have fun. I told her that he probably wasn't interested in JUST dating an 18y/o, but maybe I'm being old fashioned - I don't know. Anyway, she's going to tell him that she's just come out of a relationship and didn't realize he was 5 years older than her and that she doesn't feel comfortable with such an age difference. And last night she met with the BF and gave him back the necklace he left for her (in our mailbbox - a $300 necklace) after the break up. She said they decided that they would meet once a week to talk and see how they felt. She said the BF told her that this past week has given him the opportunity to see her point of view about his controlling words and attitudes and he agrees with her that it's not fair for him to place the burdens of his own insecurities on her. I don't know if it's just talk, but at least dd stuck to her guns and didn't cave. She claims that she's still attracted to him and would be happy with him if he wasn't so insecure. She loves him.
Hang in there, it's nearly over! Thanks for the update on your older DD; it sounds like she is enjoying her re-discovered singlehood! And please do, keep us updated on your other DD.
It sounds like your older dd is handling things in a very mature way both in regards to the controlling ex-bf and in the new-found state of 'single-dom'.
Thank you all so much for your thoughts and well wishes for dd16. She couldn't get an appt to see the breast surgeon until this Thursday, so we don't really know much yet. Her breasts are still sore and still have that blood/oozing thing going on. Her hygiene habits are not the best so I have to remind her daily to clean the area and put the salve on it. (where is the rolling eye icon now?).
DD18 is still broken up with her controlling BF, thank heavens. However, her best GF has taught her how to pick up guys....oh brother. The other night, while I was away for the night out of town with my own gf's, DD and her friend went to a local Chili's and dd left her phone number for the waiter and her friend told him that dd thought he was HOT. He called her back in and asked them to go to a party that night, they went. DD actually called me to tell about this and was so excited...I barely stumbled out the words, "please be careful and make your curfew". She was careful and made her curfew fine H said. But, I know the waiter and there is no way he's under 25. I don't particularly want my 18dd hanging our and partying with 25 y/o guys. That means that he has at least 5-7 years experience on her - she's only gone steady with the controlling BF and JUST broke up! So, last night dd and I had a chat. It was short and sweet. I told her I thought it was good for her to go out with friends, meet new people and perhaps date. But I didn't approve of her seeing men who are so much older than her. I reminded her that she must be a little more prudent about giving her number to strangers and always make sure she has a friend she can trust with her to leave with, etc. She actually said thanks and then asked what she could say to this waiter guy to make him stop calling her. Apparently, he really wants to see her again. She isn't interested in being his GF, just wanted to meet someone new and have fun. I told her that he probably wasn't interested in JUST dating an 18y/o, but maybe I'm being old fashioned - I don't know. Anyway, she's going to tell him that she's just come out of a relationship and didn't realize he was 5 years older than her and that she doesn't feel comfortable with such an age difference. And last night she met with the BF and gave him back the necklace he left for her (in our mailbbox - a $300 necklace) after the break up. She said they decided that they would meet once a week to talk and see how they felt. She said the BF told her that this past week has given him the opportunity to see her point of view about his controlling words and attitudes and he agrees with her that it's not fair for him to place the burdens of his own insecurities on her. I don't know if it's just talk, but at least dd stuck to her guns and didn't cave. She claims that she's still attracted to him and would be happy with him if he wasn't so insecure. She loves him.
Oiy, it's been such a year.
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Hang in there, it's nearly over! Thanks for the update on your older DD; it sounds like she is enjoying her re-discovered singlehood! And please do, keep us updated on your other DD.
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