divorce and 13yr daughter

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Registered: 03-03-2004
divorce and 13yr daughter
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:37pm
i am so frustrated what do i do? my 13 yr old daughter has put her father and his new wife on a pedastal, and she cant remember that her father wasnt around the first 10 years of her life.they just had a baby (2 year old) ever since then, they pick my daughter up every weekend. i know she is only there to babysit. and she comes home with such a bad attitude. she feels so distant from me. there are still times that her father lets her down, he took her last weekend, but didnt the last 4 before that (cause they broke up. again!!) and when that happens i have my daughter back. but when she goes there it seems she is a different person.i wish he would just move far away. it just seems to me that my daughter just wants to hurt me. she considers her stepmothers 3 sons as her stepbrothers but my stepson is nothing to her. sometimes i just want to give up on her, then it wont hurt me, but that hurts too, and even though she is distant to me i know that will hurt her. i only want whats best for her, and i know being brainwashed and used as a babysitter isnt whats best for her, and if i say that she doesnt believe it and im the bad guy, im sure someone out there is going through the same thing. how are you handling it?
rhonda