Holiday Blues

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Registered: 07-31-2003
Holiday Blues
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Mon, 12-19-2005 - 1:34pm

Hi Everyone!

Well, I just dont know whats the matter with me this year. For the past week or so I've been so down. Feels like I can cry at any moment and its not even PMS time for goodness sake! I feel like all I do is give, give, give between my family and my job. Pulled in all sorts of different directions and receive nothing in return. Makes me question why I'm doing all of this. My kids dont seem to appreciate anything I do, always want more from me. My husband is no help at all, doesnt seem to care how I feel. I feel like I'm alone with no one to talk to even though I have good friends. Christmas is kind of a hard time for me as my mom passed away from cancer 4 years ago just after Christmas and I miss her terribly.

Sorry for venting, maybe its just the holidays...SIGH!

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Registered: 02-14-2000
In reply to: tamarahar
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 1:48pm
I'm sorry you're feeling so blue this year.
Pam
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Registered: 12-22-2003
In reply to: tamarahar
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 4:47pm

I'm here with you ... I've gone through all the motions -- tree, ornaments, decorations, gifts, I even managed to bake some cookies, and it's just not working. I am really in a major funk.

It sounds like you've been under a lot of stress -- no wonder you're feeling down! I hope it gets better for you.

{{Hugs}}

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Registered: 07-31-2003
In reply to: tamarahar
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 5:07pm
Major funk! Perfect expression. Thats exactly how I feel. I just dont understand it. Everything in life is good but yet I'm feeling so down and out of sorts!
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Registered: 12-22-2003
In reply to: tamarahar
Mon, 12-19-2005 - 6:43pm

Well, alcohol only makes you more depressed when you're feeling down, so we'll skip that, okay? Christmas shopping is pretty much done at this point, so we can't go out and get a good spending pick-me-up rush either, so how about this?

I made some really yummy cookies yesterday -- mint chocolate truffle, as well as our family default -- chocolate chip. How 'bout we go eat about a dozen or so of each? With a big glass of cold milk?

Sending some chocolatey holiday cheer your way ...

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: tamarahar
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 1:44pm

hugs tamara ---- just wondering, no offence but how old are you? because sometimes there are hormonal changes that can cuase the feelings you are describing. whenever you feel these feelings - its always a good idea to talk to your GP and/or ob/gyn just to rule out any other issues ( i don't know how old you are, i was thinking along the lines of peri menopause).


the other thing is that you need to learn to TAKE. i know that as women/wives/mothers/daughters/sisters we are used to give give give and we 'expect' that 'they' will give back - and they don't always do that. so --- its time to learn to take.


take time for yourself.


take time to breathe


take time to relax


and yes, you CAN.


i remember when i had my lightbulb moment a few years ago. i was married, in a terrible marriage. my then husband was always angry/depressed and was veeeerrrryyy controlling. anyway, i was in the stage when i was trying to 'fix' things and make the marriage work (i laugh at myself now!). anyway, i wa over weight and unhealthy. and every morning i would make my then-husband his breakfast and lunch (because he had all kinds of health issues, and he 'wanted' healthy food but he would n't make it himself and i felt responsible). and i would make my son HIS lunch. and then i would rush out the house and end up buying a bagel on the way to work -and one day

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Registered: 07-31-2003
In reply to: tamarahar
Tue, 12-20-2005 - 3:27pm
What a great message! Thank you so much. Your words have rang so true for me. I'm 41 years old and maybe I am in the perimenopause state. I dont know. I will try and do more for ME - maybe a few days off during Xmas will help. Thanks everyone!