about 'the sex talk' and fathers....

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Registered: 04-02-2003
about 'the sex talk' and fathers....
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 10:15am

i was talking with my son (19) yesterday. we were discussing an article that wa in the weekend paper - about the problems that religious/ultra religiou schools/communities were having regarding sex and sexuality. basically - any discussion about sex and sexuality simply do not take place in the school environment, and if the home is not open then the kids don't get any information, they do not go to the movies, or read 'secular' books and the sexes are totally segregated in school and society. then they are pushed into marriage at an early age and boom - many couples have sexual problems. anyway - i mentioned to my son that even tho he too went to that kinds of school for most of his schooling, at least HE got information at home. so he looked at me and said - huh? he said that mayb NOW the discussions are open but not earlier. so i said - but *M* (my ex H and his ex step father) took it upon himself to talk with you about this. so my son looked at me and said - mom, i think that *M* himself doesn't know what to do (which, between you and me, is true....)


anyway,k the point of this message is : its ok to have your husbands toak to the boys and all - but just make sure that YOU do a follow up so that the kids DO get the information that they need. I jut assumed* that *M* would talk to my son openinly (now that i think about it, i don't know why i assumed that - *M* himself had sexuality problems and he didn't really know ho w to deal with stuff) so i marked that off MY list.


well, at least now its all settled....