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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 10:59pm |
OK here is the situation.
I'm 42, divorced 5 years and have a 15 year old boy. My son is for the most part pretty average. He has his regular group of friends that he plays ball with and hangs around with. He's somewhat shy around girls. He gets decent to good grades in school.
Ok here's what happened a few days ago.
Last Saturday, he left the house to be with his friends, I went into his room to vacuum. While I was putting the attachment on the hose, I dropped it and of course it went under his bed. I got down on my knees to retrieve the part and found the following: a pair of socks, a music CD, and..... 3 "wet" tissues and an old photo of me that my ex took of me on the beach when we were on our honeymoon. I was in a very skimpy bikini in the photo.
Now I'm not naive. I have found wet tissues in his room a few times before and know this is normal. I didn't want to embarrass him so I never said anything about them. BUT, it's the picture of me in my bikini, showing lots of skin that shocked me. I went running to my best friend and told her about this. She told me that it's not unheard of that adolescent boys sometimes fantasize about their mothers. According to her it's the combination of raging hormones and the proximity to a female, mother or not. In addition to this, it occured to me that in recent weeks he had become more affectionate with me as well.
Here's my question: has anyone here ever heard of this? I find it weird that my son thinks of me in a sexual way. Is this just a phase that he will outgrow?
Thanks for any advice.

All I can suggest Debra is that sometimes 2 + 2 does not equal 4. In other words the presence of the wet tissues and the pic doesn't necessarily mean the pic was being used at the same time as the tissues...
I'm with the 2 + 2 does not always equal 4 theory.