Vent to my father, husband and others...
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Vent to my father, husband and others...
| Tue, 01-10-2006 - 4:38pm |
Yes.....my daughter is rude, mean, disrespectful, prone to fits of rage and even violence at times. I know that she doesn't appreciate what she has or what I do for her (what kid does), I know she tells me she hates me and I can never take the place in her heart as her drug dealing, alcoholic mother that DFACS took her away from. But she is still my daughter and I love her dearly. She has been in my life since she was 7 (she is now 13), she isn't going anywhere, she isn't going to dissappear.....I won't let her. So get over it. You don't see that she gets good grades and is a happy, loving person most of the time. I know she gets under your skin, she gets under mine too. If you can't understand her, or stand her for that matter, that's ok, just don't rub it in all the time. Try to see that she may have a lot of problems (I hope she outgrows the worst), but she has potential and I am giving her a much better chance at life than she would have had otherwise. Don't tell me that you hate her, if you can't support me, don't say anything at all.

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Go ahead and vent away, it's hard living with these children that have been scarred by the things in the world that most people want to pretend doesn't exist.
Hi Morgantlsmom,
Hi! I can relate to so much you've said about your daughter.
If these people are telling you they hate this little girl, then some distance is in order. I don't know how you can do that with your husband though. But some people's negativity doesn't have to be allowed around you or her.
My DS-16 has dyed his hair and pierced both his ears, and owns one pair of pants with some chains hanging off them. My mother can't stand it! He's never a behavior problem at their house, or on their vacations or anything. It's simply those 3 things (she told me!).
A couple of days before X-mas, she began telling him that he looks like the Columbine killers and that his grandfather would never allow him to go on vacation with them later that day because of those things. ALL of this in front of his cousin (also 16), who was leaving that day with them. When I asked my father later, I found out it was totally untrue. He didn't care one way or another what he looked like or how he dressed on their trip, which is a BIG change for him.
I skipped X-mas dinner with them. My son has enough problems without the big ta-do over the little things. And in fact, once I got used to his new look I realized he really does look good with the dark hair and eyebrows.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Stick around, k?
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