Need advice Fast re: sons break up
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Need advice Fast re: sons break up
| Wed, 01-11-2006 - 2:42am |
I really need advice quickly on what to say to my 12+ son. His girlfriend broke up with him tonight and he is very upset. The relationship was a first love and altho very innocent as far as relationships go it was a very big deal for him. When he was talking to me about it tonight he was crying and I was sitting there trying to remember all the things I had read about being supportive in this situation... what to say... what not to say...
Can anyone give me some advice ASAP because I'd like to be a little more effective the next time he and I talk about this.
Thanks
Can anyone give me some advice ASAP because I'd like to be a little more effective the next time he and I talk about this.
Thanks

I'm with Pam on this too, breakups at this age tend to wear off pretty quickly.
Validating his feelings is quite important and helps lay the groundwork for future communication with tough issues.
I still remember a similar situation in the stone age when I was 13. My mother (who is a saint and didn't know any better) dismissed it as "cute", saying there will be plenty of time for "real" girlfriends when your older, using all sorts of infuriating terms like "puppy love" etc.
It certainly didn't make me feel better....