Help, sons 1st breakup, upset w/ mom

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Registered: 01-12-2006
Help, sons 1st breakup, upset w/ mom
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Thu, 01-12-2006 - 12:47am
I really need some advice right now. I am single with three children, my oldest is 16. Just to give you a little background on him. He's a good student, has a few friends at school, not alot because he doesn't play sports. He does bowl and golfs in the summer. He really hasn't ever had a girlfriend. Recently he started liking this girl, his age, but when I would ask about her, he stated they were just friends. Which was just fine. He did tell me the other night that he was going to ask her out to a movie, she ended up saying yes. Well, last night he had bowling and was going to stop by her house to say hello before he went to bowling. He came home last night, went right to his room, said he didn't feel well. I tried several times, probably too many times to ask him what was wrong. He won't talk to me about it. He seems very upset with me. He just says I don't want to talk about it. Very angrily. HELP. I have a feeling it does have to do with this girl, but I feel helpless. My son has been able to talk to me about anything, up until now. He doesn't have a father he can talk to and only a couple of good friends. Any suggestions.
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Registered: 10-21-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 5:47am
Well, you're probably right that it has something to do with the girl. Emotions are running at a fever pitch at this age - especially when it comes to the opposite sex. As painful as it is for us, sometimes we just have to let them work through things on their own. This sounds like one of those times. He may feel like talking in a day or two, or he might just want to drop it. I'd follow his lead on this one. Hang in there!
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 7:23am

Hugs to you midwestmom, the road to manhood can be almost as rough on mom as it is on DS.