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| Wed, 03-08-2006 - 7:50pm |
DD: Mom, can you take me to the library tonight?
Me: Why?
DD: I have a project due on Friday.
Me: When did you receive this assignment?
DD: Last Friday.
Me: Why didn't you tell me about it? I could have taken you to the library last weekend.
DD: I left the assignment at school.
Me: Do you have the assignment now?
DD: Yes.
Me: Let me see it.
Me: Who signed my name?
DD: You did. I gave you this assignment and you signed it.
Me: I never saw this paper until you just now showed it to me. Did you forge my name?
DD: Uh, yeah. Sorry.
Me: Why?
DD: I had to turn the paper back in to the teacher last Friday and I forgot to bring it home on Thursday to show you.
Me: I thought you received the assignment on Friday; now you are telling me that you had to turn the paper in on Friday.
DD: Well, I got the assignment on Thursday and forgot to bring it home.
Me: So, the teacher thinks I signed this?
DD: Yes.
Me: Well, I need to tell the teacher that I didn't sign the assignment.
DD: No!! Don't tell the teacher! Please, mom, no! Ground me or anything, just don't tell the teacher!
Me: Why don't you want the teacher to know?
DD: I don't want any more crap from them . I want them to like me. I'm doing my best. (And it goes on and on for a bit more).
We are now at the library and I am waiting for dd to get the information she needs and I will then take her home.
But the question I would like your opinion on is whether or not I should send an email to the teacher later tonight and let her know that dd forged my name. Is there anything to be gained by "telling" on dd?
Thanks in advance, and sorry this is so long.
Amelia

I wouldn't tell the teacher. Nothing good would come from it and teachers can't be expected to be able to sniff out forgeries.
I would, however, find some way to make dd atone for her crime - chores or someting like that.
jt
Oh COME ON!!!
yep, everything bunnierose said.
Add to that, last night was parent teacher conferences. The algebra teacher noted that my son has gotten 10 points everytime he's returned something I signed. I've never signed anything for algebra, or any other class for that matter. He didn't lose the points, but now the teacher and I are both aware of it, and my son is aware of it. This is a teacher he has a great deal of respect for, who also has a great deal of respect for him. He apologized to me for it and was supposed to apologize to her today.
Bottom line is, we HAVE to be parents who care. There were so few parents at conferences last night. Parents are too busy for their kids. Parents aren't interested in what they can do to help their own kids. Parents aren't interested in what is going on at school. Parents feel that it's only the schools responsibility to teach. It's truly sad. Parents need to be interested, have/make time and teach their own kids.
You most definately need to talk with the teacher. And, you need to offer consequenses at home, especially since she's expecting them. But, I'd tell her you are thinking about it, make her wait, make her stew and worry first. My bet is that nothing will happen at school, except that the teacher will now have a heads up to double check signatures.