adhd? or an excuse
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adhd? or an excuse
| Wed, 03-08-2006 - 7:52pm |
I have never experienced knowing someone with adhd. I am struggling to know if my daughters boyfriend usese it as an excuse not to accomplish anything. If any one could please please give me some insight on adhd and can answers some questions please let me know. I have been tryin to do research on this and everything I have read points to him using this as an excuse. But I would love to be able to ask someone who has dealt with this personally. I am afraid my daughter is headed for a life that will be rough. Please help. I know I have posted on this alot but there is no one close to me to discuss this with. Thanks for your understanding and support.

There's a difference between an explanation and an excuse - ADHD may explain some of his problem in staying focussed, accomplishing stuff, etc, but at some point he will have to learn those things in order to have any success in life. There are lots of strategies (like organizers, etc) to help kids/teens/adults with ADD achieve more success - if someone is motivated, and finds the right help, they can learn to work around it. I guess I'd see ADHD as a possible explanation, and a road sign as to where to go for help, but not an excuse for not finding help in the end.
HTH
Sue
I have 2 sons diagnosed with ADHD, neither of them currently on medication, Z was off his around 10 y/o, J quit taking his around 12.