Book help...any input is great!

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Book help...any input is great!
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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 7:44pm

I have been losing it with DD, I try to stay calm but always yell. I know I am not using the best language when tryin to talk to her either. I am considering these books and would like any input from you on whether you have read or heard anything good about them...or any that you have read yourself that you may reccommend.
Thanks in advance.

1.Queen Bees and Wannabes
Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends & Other Realities of Adolescence

2.Parent Talk
How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility

3Hold Me Close, Let Me Go
A Mother, a Daughter, and an Adolescence Survived

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 8:46pm

I couldn't put down Queen Bees last year but that was because DD was caught in the middle of a normal but horrible middle school clique thing. It didn't give me any problem solving ideas but helped explain alot about the social things going on for teenage girls.I haven't heard of any of the others.

If respect towards you is a problem I think that Parenting Teens with Love & Logic is good- I know I've had to go back to it many times.
Good Luck!

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Thu, 03-09-2006 - 10:05pm

I read Queenbee's and Wannabee's in Ebook version, and although it explains the thinking and the make-up of the groups, I really didn't find it too helpful in bettering things. Maybe it would have been better had I actually bought the physical book and maybe I will give a try again just to see.

That 3rd book sounds like something I am going to have to race out and find tomorrow - sounds so much like what I am going through right now.

Good luck!




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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 8:14am

One book I love is "the Power of a Positive Mom"... don't have it handy at the moment and I dont remember the author.

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:27am

One book I've loved is "Yes, Your Teen is Crazy" by Michael Bradley. It has humor and lots of good insight into how teens operate. There's a companion book "Yes, your parents are crazy" which I bought for my DD

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0936197447/sr=8-1/qid=1142000820/ref=pd_bbs_1/104-9092279-8519115?%5Fencoding=UTF8

Sue

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Fri, 03-10-2006 - 9:57am
I have read Queen Bees and Wannabes. My DD read it also. I loved it, and it really helped me to understand her, and I think it helped her understand herself as well. It also strengthened our bond by starting discussions between us. I think she really liked it that I read it, it showed her that I was trying to understand her world. I highly recommend it!
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Mon, 03-13-2006 - 3:03pm
Thanks for all the input I really do appreciate it. My DD is reading a book called "a child named it" and its sequel, "the lost boy". I hope that reading those books gives her an insight on all the great things that she takes for granted, and a lot more! I haven't read them all, but from the bits and pieces it is a good, honest read. It is mainly about a young boy, who is abused by his mother and eventually becomes a foster child. It is written by him. What stroke me down was that she actually asked for the book, I didnt push it on her or nothing... Maybe change is coming, it is certainly welcomed even if just temporary.
Anyways...Thanks for all. I will be going to bookstore after work today!
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Mon, 03-13-2006 - 3:18pm

ong ... I read that book and it is absolutely horrifying! I didn't have the stomach to read beyond the first installment.

I didn't respond earlier to your post cuz all I'd read was Queen Bees and you got lots of feedback about that one!

Good luck

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-13-2006 - 7:22pm

I read Queen Bees when my DD was in 6th grade and being bullied at school.