DS is driving me nuts

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Registered: 09-13-2005
DS is driving me nuts
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 2:53pm
Sorry to post twice today, but my DS who is 18 is driving me crazy. He was given a car by my parents after he got his license. Back in October after he started dating his gf, my hours at work changed and he had to pick up his brother from middle school. Well, he picked him up late almost every day for 3 weeks so the school was getting very upset with me. I had warned my DS that if he couldn't be responsible and pick up his brother the car was going to be taken away and his sister, then 16 1/2, would be driving it and picking him and the younger brother up from school. He continued to pick him up late so I took the car away. My DD has done very well with picking up her younger brother. Whether my 18 yo DS tells his sister to pick him up right after school or after she picks the younger brother, he seems to either not be at school or won't get in the car so my DD will leave him there. He will then get upset at her and act like it is her fault. My DS's gf will then take him home. I just don't know what to do with him. I try to tell him that he needs to be responsible and let her know what she is to do about picking him up and follow through with it. My DH says to just give up and that he will be out of the house soon so don't worry about it but it is an every day battle. He has been so whipped by this girl and has turned into someone I never thought he would be. He does great in school and can be sweet when he wants to but he lets her run the show and he is like a lost puppy...makes me sick. Should I just give up the battle with my DD picking him up and let the gf just bring him home or what? It's making me crazy and I don't know what to do to get my sanity back.
Thanks
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 5:37pm

If the g/f wants to bring him home, let her do it.

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 8:50am

Personally, I would just let the g/f bring him but the rule would be she can't come in the house if I'm not at home. It's not fair to your DD to have her running all over picking people and then them treating her with disrepect. Quite possibly, the g/f or her parents will get tired of her being his chauffer and take some action of their own.