How can I make her go.....

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Registered: 10-24-2006
How can I make her go.....
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Fri, 11-10-2006 - 1:17pm
My daughter is saying she won't go and I can't make her. How can I make her get dressed, get in the car, and go with me?
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Registered: 11-01-2004
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 1:37pm

Ok I don't know where your going but how about putting her in the car no matter what she's wearing and go. Give her the option of getting dressed appropriately but if she refuses, put her in the car in her jammies or whatever.


I don't like power plays and don't play into them.


Good luck.


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Registered: 10-24-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 1:39pm
I'd like to do that, but I don't know how. I can't lift her. She supposed to go to a church retreat. Her sister is going too.
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Registered: 11-01-2004
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 1:44pm

How old is she? What are her reasons for not going? How much time do you have before having to leave?


I would find out why she doesn't want to go? Does she have a legit reason? Is it going to hurt for her to not go? Is her absence going to affect someone else there? Does she have a responsibility to be there?


If you can't reason with her and you feel that it is really important for her to go then give her this option. She can either choose to go or she can choose to stay. If she chooses to stay home then the next big

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 1:59pm
O.K. That is some help that I needed. I'll get back to you on the reasons b/c we should have left an hour ago. Thanks for the thoughts.
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Registered: 10-24-2006
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 2:00pm
P.S. I love your Aubie icon.
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Registered: 11-01-2004
Fri, 11-10-2006 - 2:06pm

You can steal the Aubie icon if you want! I like your sign in name. I couldn't think of anything original when I was signing up. Just used the first letter of each of my kids names and the x 4 means 4 kids. lol! So pathetic.


Anyway good luck and let me know how it goes.


oh have you found your way to the Alabama board?


WAR EAGLE!!!!!

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 6:43am
How old is she, how big is she, and where are you going?
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Registered: 10-24-2006
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 10:54am

I am so glad that you were online yesterday. We've had a lot of trouble out of this gal and are seeing a family therapist & she's seeing a therapist, too. I thought we had made such progress, and then she pulled that power play. You are right that that is what it was.

She chose to go over losing the Christmas gala (dance) at school. She griped all the way down there. I think she's afraid of not knowing anyone. We we pulled into the camp parking lot she lit up like a Christmas tree and started saying hi to people. So I'm not too worried about that. She did declare herself an atheist on the way down, so I am worried about that. She is wearing me out, but at least my husband and I have a quiet weekend without the girls to heal a bit.

I'll have to look for the Alabama board, and I have no idea how to get an icon. I'm new here. Thanks again for the quick response. I just did not know what to do. I can't thank you enough.

L.A.

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Registered: 11-01-2004
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 2:32pm

L.A.


I am so glad I was on at that time also and my advice helped. Most kids are all the same. They are going to make those power plays, sometimes not quite as strongly as she did yesterday but they do it in many ways, usually

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