14 year old step son driving me nuts!!
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14 year old step son driving me nuts!!
| Sun, 11-19-2006 - 7:02pm |
Ok so I am new to all of this but it seems to really help to at least have a way to talk about all of this and get my feelings out there. My stepson is 14 years old and I get the fact that everyone regardless of if it was a step parent or a birth parent has hated their parents at one point or another and not been able to communicate. The thing is this:
My husband and I got married only a short time ago, he is 32 and I am 22, to some of you that might seem strange but the age is not a factor to us. Anyways, my husband has raised his son so much different than I was raised. I have 3 younger brothers one 16, one 13, and one 12, and them I can understand being annoyed with because the fact they are brothers. We were raised to use our manners and to respect other people and always use our p's and q's. We were also raised that a family does things for one another if asked or even if not asked, such as house hold chores and just talking when needed. I am talking about really simple stuff here, if my parents weren't home and I or my brothers noticed that things needed to be done around the house we always did what we could and it would never be 100% but our parents were always happy that at least we tried!!
My step son is very lazy, very disrespectful and he has no sense that what he says and does are not proper. For example pretty much the only chores that he has to do are dinner dishes and taking out the trash, sounds like a pretty simple life huh? His dad and I have also talked to him about just picking things up off of the floor if he notices some type of garbage or something from our other younger children. But when it comes time for him to do dishes he has a fit and throughs the dishes around and has broken some of them sometimes. Since it is not summer time anymore I told him if he wanted to go skateboarding(one of his favorite things) that he had to wear a sweater or something to stay warm and not get sick. Doors slammed and words were said and I am just sick and tired of all of his crap!!! And I wrong? Am I expecting too much out of a child who just doesn't seem to give to s--t's? Someone please just tell me how am I supposed to deal with this kid!!
My husband and I got married only a short time ago, he is 32 and I am 22, to some of you that might seem strange but the age is not a factor to us. Anyways, my husband has raised his son so much different than I was raised. I have 3 younger brothers one 16, one 13, and one 12, and them I can understand being annoyed with because the fact they are brothers. We were raised to use our manners and to respect other people and always use our p's and q's. We were also raised that a family does things for one another if asked or even if not asked, such as house hold chores and just talking when needed. I am talking about really simple stuff here, if my parents weren't home and I or my brothers noticed that things needed to be done around the house we always did what we could and it would never be 100% but our parents were always happy that at least we tried!!
My step son is very lazy, very disrespectful and he has no sense that what he says and does are not proper. For example pretty much the only chores that he has to do are dinner dishes and taking out the trash, sounds like a pretty simple life huh? His dad and I have also talked to him about just picking things up off of the floor if he notices some type of garbage or something from our other younger children. But when it comes time for him to do dishes he has a fit and throughs the dishes around and has broken some of them sometimes. Since it is not summer time anymore I told him if he wanted to go skateboarding(one of his favorite things) that he had to wear a sweater or something to stay warm and not get sick. Doors slammed and words were said and I am just sick and tired of all of his crap!!! And I wrong? Am I expecting too much out of a child who just doesn't seem to give to s--t's? Someone please just tell me how am I supposed to deal with this kid!!

I'm sorry this is causing you so much stress, but it really is fairly normal teen behavior, even in the best of households.