Let's See........

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Let's See........
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Tue, 11-28-2006 - 10:00pm

Today's re-cap....
Item 1
This evening DD is begging to go to the Cayman Islands for a school trip with 50 other students this next summer.
They will learn marine biology and scuba diving... all for a *cough* reasonable cost that she claims she is prepared to pay most of it. uhhh..not likely....

Item 2
This evening DD wants permission to go to a party at a boy friend's (not boyfriend) house where she announced the parents will not be home. They are out of town. She expects to be rewarded for this bold, mature and brazen display of openness by being allowed to go. She has made it clear that to be refused this request after such a responsible gesture would clearly be punishment for open communication, and as parents, we should not set such a bad example. uhhh.. not likely....

ROFL... It's never a dull moment..
I seriously don't know what I'm going to do with my time when this one finally leaves the nest. Frankly, it scares the livin beegeebers out of me. I will need some empty nest therapy and antidepressants.....

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 5:15am

ROFL!

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Registered: 02-18-2005
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 7:47am

LOL Sometimes I think they say these things *just* to see what we'll say! My DD15's New Year's Eve plans have evolved from

10+ boys and girls (but only the girls would sleep over)
to
6-8 just girls
to
3-4 of the closest girl friends for a sleepover.

I know if I had pitched a fit about the first one, we'd have had a month of pouting and fighting. Letting it go has allowed the more reasonable plan to emerge!

I love the story of the party with no one home. This is the same theme we talked about before - if they tell the truth about something horrible, do they still get to do it? I'd tell your DD that the reward for telling the truth is a wonderful, parent-supervised, at-your-own-home get-together!

Sue

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 10:51am

This is funny. I'm sure my DD has been at some unsupervized places w/o telling me. So far she hasn't asked to do something really stupid. She usually just tells me after the fact, like when I found out that she had tried alcohol and she even told me what night--remember when I told you I was going to the movies that night w/ Abby? Well, I tried drinking, but it was ok since Abby was the designated driver. That's why I hope she goes away to college. I just don't even want to know what is going on. She did mention something in the beginning of the year about a class trip to Mexico that was not sponsored by the school, I guess some kids were just thinking about arranging it, which doesn't sound like a good idea to me at all, but the subject hasn't come up since and I hope it never does.

But can you believe that my 11 yo DS asked me if he could go sleep over a girl's house on Christmas vacation? Apparently there would be some other boys & girls and the girl's would sleep in the bedroom and the boys would sleep downstairs or something. I told him it's too early to argue about something that might or might not occur a month from now and I don't know if it's just in this girl's imagination or whether her parents would actually let her. He told me this same girl's mother is taking them to the movies on Friday since they have 1/2 day. When I talked to her on the phone yesterday, it was "yes, Katie has been asking me to do that." so maybe this coed sleepover is just all in Katie's fertile imagination right now. I wouldn't be that worried about a coed sleepover at ages 10 & 11, except that my DS said something about when they go to the movies, he will let Katie & some other boy sit in a row together so they can be alone. It sounds kind of early to have to worry about that stuff w/ 5th graders. I knew I should have hidden the Victoria's Secret catalog from him!

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 11:25am

You gotta hand it to your DD daddio, she's pretty good, lol. But the Cayman Islands? No way. I still think about Natalee Holloway and her graduation trip to Aruba.

My charming, long-haired hippy DS, who is not even officially a teenager yet, seems to be having an increasing number of incidents in which his brain completely disengages from his body. He is positively brilliant academically, but I don't know where that brilliance goes once he is outside of school. HE is the one who is going to make me nutty.

We leave the house every morning at 7:15 for school. Yesterday morning, I caught him laying on his bed in nothing but a towel at 7:03. I 'gently' reminded him that we needed to leave in about 10 minutes.

He came rolling downstairs at 7:12, dressed, but with THAT HAIR uncombed and still dripping wet. Aargh. I don't mind the long hair so much, but I would mind it even less if it had the benefit of a combing more often. So I sent him back upstairs to comb his hair and brush his teeth, because he 'forgot' to do that too.

By this time, in his opinion, I was 'yelling' at him and 'gee mom, thanks for ruining my day'. Yelling??? I hadn't even raised my voice! Maybe I should have.

It wasn't until we pulled up in front of the school, his hand was on the door to open it and he reached down to grab his backpack when he realized it wasn't there! He'd forgotten that too! Back into the car, back home ...

Just exactly where DO their brains go?

 

 

 

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Wed, 11-29-2006 - 11:41am

Sounds exactly like my ds14 - the long hair (other than now, in HS, he's more concerned about looks than he was a couple of years ago), the slow morning routine, the forgetting to brush hair and teeth, the forgetting where things are, the lack of concern for time of day in the morning, the 'yelling'...I was hoping it'd all 'clear up' by HS, but nooooo.

Sue

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 11:56am

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The brain disengages when the balls drop.

Now, for the girls, I am still trying to figure that one out, my dd is getting way to smart and I am just the dumbest person on earth!

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 12:08pm
So you're saying I'm in for 6 more years of this? Sigh ....

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 12:10pm
LOL. I was pretty sure this was the way it worked -- at least with boys anyway ...

 

 

 

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 4:28pm

Yeah...the way they talk they can make us feel like WE need to see psychiatrists. Today DS17 (1.5 mos ago suspended cuz of alcohol) asked if he can stay out an hour past his 12:00 curfew time Friday night to attend a party with his gf. She works until 10pm and then they plan to go to some of her coworkers'(gay guys) party. (Her dad is a psychologist, and we do trust her.) Neither DS nor I know these guys, but I asked if there'd be alcohol and drugs, and he said he didn't know. Said even if there is, he learned his lesson and would just say 'no'. It sounds to me like something they should just skip altogether, but maybe his gf wants to be friendly with her coworkers, and just wants DS to go with for hetero-company. DS feels like we'll never again trust him and makes us feel guilty every time we deny a request. We know when he's at college in 10 mos. he'll be facing all this stuff, but I almost wish he just wouldn't even tell us about it and just do it--cuz my mind keeps rehashing everything a zillion different ways.

And then I think back to when I was in HS (Catholic, no less), summer before senior year, I think. A group of about 10--half guys, half girls--drove 1.5 hours to Milwaukee to attend Summerfest. Stayed overnight in a hotel (guess they wouldn't allow that now as you need to be 18, right?) with the guys in one room, girls in the other. We had a great time. No alcohol. No drugs. No sex. Just a lot of fun being together with friends. How did our parents ever allow us to do that? Do we need to have more trust in DS now? I dunno, I dunno, I dunno.

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Registered: 01-03-2006
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 7:44pm

I have to jump in on this one!


My 12 yo DD (soon to be 13), has been nastier than nasty lately. Knowing that her pre-pubescent loviness would be entering "womanhood" soon, I have been mustering up the patience to deal with her. Well, Thanksgiving came and the floodgates opened...she's a woman - AND EVEN NASTIER THAN BEFORE!!


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