Is It Possible?

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Is It Possible?
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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 10:25pm

I have a friend who swears that her DS-15 has never lied to her. Do you believe that's possible?

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Registered: 03-06-2006
In reply to: cat_momma
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 10:47pm
Nope. Call me a cynic, I guess, but I'd be hard pressed to believe this boy hadn't fibbed about SOMETHING sometime in his life. It could be something as stupid as her DS saying he had brushed his teeth when he really hadn't, but it's still a lie.

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-13-2004
In reply to: cat_momma
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 11:16pm
Impossible.
Reminds me of parents who swear their teens "tell them everything".
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Registered: 02-18-2005
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 6:29am
I guess it depends on how she defines a lie. Like Julie, I'm sure that every teen/child (heck even every adult) lies about little things all the time. But I believe that there can be teens who haven't lied to their parents about big things (drinking, drugs, sex, grades, curfew).
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Registered: 09-07-2005
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 6:53am

Thank you all for your replies... sigh.

I'm getting a little annoyed. No, she's not talking about just the big stuff, but totally believes he has never EVER lied to her before. About anything.

Their first juvenile court date is next month. And I do believe he could be innocent (graffiti charge) He's really a good kid, good grades, and never a problem in school.

I've known him since birth... but I just wasn't sure what to think anymore. She's found im's about pot smoking and stealing money from a machine, but he always had a good story (that even I believed). She's so sure of him... and it seems my kid has lied so many times... so I was just wondering if such non-lying kids really exist.

Thanks again,
zz

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Registered: 03-06-2006
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 9:09am
Sounds like he's not only lied before, but he's an extremely good liar at that!

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 9:29am

I have a friend who swears that she is fully in touch with her sons, knows they do plenty wrong, but the ONE thing her kids will never do is lie(acc/to her)

I, personally, dont put lying in a totally different plane than any other misbehavior although I know many parents do. To me, if they're capable of using pot, breaking curfew, or telling a teacher off, they are capable of lying. I find it hard to think otherwise

But, again, for some mothers, there is this 'thing' about lying being 'special'-I just plain dont get it!

And, yes, the boys in question not only lied, they lied more than their peers IMO. I assume they reaped the rewards and were understandably motivated to keep using the strategy. Theyre in another state now but I imagine as teens they have become quite skilled

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Registered: 07-30-1997
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 11:23am

ITA - sounds very 'polished'. My ds will 'exaggerate' and claim it's not a lie, but I call him on it - nothing super serious yet (more like the tooth brushing or checking over homework), but they're still untruths.

Sue

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Registered: 09-07-2005
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 1:16pm

I had a disagreement over something, like you're saying, just last year. (different woman than from my OP)

I asked her son if he'd seen mine, and he told me that he'd seen my son at 2:30 that afternoon, when all along DS was in this kid's house hours later. She told me that that *wasn't* a lie. 6 weeks later, to my utter surprise, she told me she was still upset that I said her son had lied to me.. that her son doesn't lie. That he made a bad choice, but didn't lie to me.

I don't get it sometimes.

zz

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 4:15pm

Maybe your friend should open her eyes a little more because if her DS is telling people on IMs that he is smoking pot and stealing, he probably is doing it. Yeah, my DD is in the top 10% of her class, has never been in trouble in school and usually strikes everyone as a good kid, but she has admitted doing at least one thing that I wouldn't like, which is trying alcohol. The thing is that the one night she did it, she told me she was going to the movies and her friend was driving. I never checked up because I always assumed she is going to be at whatever place she said she was going to be (you know, good kid, never assume she would lie). Apparently, she is just a better liar than my DSD, who (see other post) lies about things that are so obvious, she will get caught.

Also, another example, my dentist's son, who lives on our street, got expelled from school because another girl said he was dealing drugs. His story was that he had money because he was taking bets on football games. His father initially believe him, but since then has found out that he is using drugs and has been arrested a couple of times since then.

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Registered: 01-27-2006
In reply to: cat_momma
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 4:46pm

No I have had my dd's stare me straight in the eye and lie to me.

Robin

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