therapy session

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Registered: 01-27-2006
therapy session
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Sun, 12-10-2006 - 1:59am

Friday I had an appointment with my therapist. my dd 17 wanted to spend the weekend wiwth the lady that she nanny's for. she weren't going to be home so she wanted to work on the moral she is painting on their play room. so i told her I would compromise. if she went with me to the session and gave it a chance i wuld allow her to go. she was very hostile and after an hour of me talking to her and dh talking to her she agreed to go. It wasn't anything like she thought it would be. she thought tht i would go in there and gang up on her and i todl her now that i think we should be here for her to her to feel free to say anything she wanted without me getting mad and that christing (the therapist ) was there as a 3rd party to help things along. I do think she was glad she came but she hasn't said anything about coming back yet. I go back again on monday and will then make an appointment with my dh and myself.

so keep your fingers and toes cross that things start to slowly change.

Robin

Robin
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 12:11pm
That sounds very hopeful, Robin! I know that kids often have a really "weird" idea of therapy until they can go and see for themselves. It can take a while to start seeing some results, but it sounds like you are on the right track.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 4:03pm
Congratulations on getting yourself and your DD to therapy. I think the hardest thing is taking that first step and after you start going and esp. develop a good relationship w/ the therapist, it will be so much better for everyone. Maybe your DD didn't want to go cause the therapist is an adult and she just thought she would tell DD that everything she did was wrong and side w/ you. If she feels free to talk about her own issues, she will probably like it.