I ALMOST FELL OVER IN SHOCK!!!!!
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| Mon, 12-11-2006 - 2:38pm |
Previously mentioned 16yo DD who belives I know nothing, understand nothing and possess an IQ lower than a turtle actually surprised me last week by asking for my advice with current "stupid boy" (DH's phrase for all males who attempt to date his princess).
Apparently rumors abound at high school about "stupid boy" and another girl. If nothing else, DD has mastered NETWORKING in your enviroment. She has more contacts than political lobbyist in Washington, all who are willing to call her with the latest tidbit of information on AS HIGH SCHOOL TURNS and the whereabouts and felonious deeds of said "stupid boy".
Her quandry was "Mom, if all your friends and casual acquaintances are reporting your BF is making time with another girl and he says he is not and that you should trust him...what do you believe?" I nearly passed out in my own kitchen, did this mini-adult who thinks I was born in the ice age actually ask for my opinion?
I will admit terror struck in my heart, although I longed for her advice requests in the past...what if I messed this one up? The Gods smiled upon me that day and my chosen profession in Human Resources prepared me for this day. I resisted the urge to squash "stupid boy" in DD's mind and gave her both sides of the story.
MY ADVICE: Consider the source and motivation of the rumors, ask yourself what is your gut telling you and if it looks like a duck....and so on. By the way "stupid boy" walked in our front door at that precise moment, I smiled innocently, DD did not. The saga continued for a few more days.
One night during a dinner out DD cell phone vibrated continuously, apparently a major undercover operation was ongoing at the HS with DD orchestrating from a local restaurant. "Stupid Boy" was located at HS Christmas play with "other girl", aforementioned NETWORK was covering his actions with cell phone cameras, text message and observation. Who would have ever thought modern technology would assist a teenage girl in a life lesson?
DD arrived at HS Christmas play (she did not have the Christmas spirit). She was secreted into the building and back stage by NETWORK, akin to Navy Seals entering a hostile nation. STUPID BOY was caught in the act and banished to a foreign land never to be heard from again (well at least not until next week).
Although she did not ponder upon my sage, wise, intelligent advice very long; she did find her own solution to her problem. Her advice: see it with your own eyes Mom, that will do it everytime! Out of the mouths of babes. She is my Hero!!!
PS.. DH believes STUPID BOY should be sent to gallows for daring to fool his princess in this shameless manner, of course he believes all teen boys should be obilerated from the earth until his princess is 30.

I too love your writing style. I'm glad your dd caught him in the act! modern tech. is definitly different when I was in highschool.
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Robin
"DH believes STUPID BOY should be sent to gallows for daring to fool his princess in this shameless manner, of course he believes all teen boys should be obilerated from the earth until his princess is 30."
As should all boys who break rule #6. Stupid boy didn't read the rules did he? Maybe we should all make them read them and then present them with a contract when they begin to date our girls.
Thank goodness mine isn't going to be dating for years. Earliest I'd even consider it would be at 16, which is 1.5 years away and I'm hoping it's longer than that.
Sallie
Rose
Sallie-
We did not allow our DD to date until she reached that magical 16yo date. My advice is reinforce your strength reserves now and establish a united front with DH similar to those that would be employed in World War III. When our DD reached 15yo we were inudated with pleas, requests and nagging regarding our inability to comprehend how she absolutely must be permitted to date. Were we ignorant, I mean really all her friends were doing it! Be strong don't deter from your plans, there are evil Stupid Boys everywhere just waiting to prey on our DD's (DH's thoughts on the matter).
I believe there are Smart Boys out there somewhere and that my DD (a young woman with a heart of gold) will eventually find a Smart Boy to give her heart to; one who will respect her, love her for who she is and honor their relationship with their actions. DH insist again this should not happen until automobiles can fly through the air. Poor man, they can have their dreams.
My advice to DD is to always forgive, never regret..you can learn something from every success and every mistake; make high school time HEALTHY and HAPPY years you can look back on and show your beautiful smile, while laughing at the drama.
Unfortunately, there will be more Stupid Boys to come. Some are repeat customers, DD gives no 3rd chances.
Happy Teen Parenting...Anna