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Thank You's?
| Tue, 12-12-2006 - 9:40am |
As a quick update, DS-17 has thrown another of his infamous temper tantrums... but for the most part, he's been fairly easy-going and friendly for the past few months, even very sweet at times.
But..... I can't remember the last time I got a thank you from him. Is this normal? A couple of times I've done something really nice for him and he's immediately said "I love you." And I can live with that, of course....
But I was wondering how often your teens thank you?
This has been bugging me for a few weeks. TIA for your experiences!
zz

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He doesn't thank me as much as I would like, but he does thank me. Very often we have to bring things to his attention. I have a harder time getting "I'm sorry" out of my son than I do "Thank You".
Things he thanks me for. Putting freshly washed and folded laundry on his bed. Ironing his shirts, making a favorite meal, asking his imput concerning the grocery list or weekend plans.
Things I don't get a thank you for. Driving him places he needs to be, running errands for him, helping him with homework, making his bed (rare but I do occasionally do it), or cleaning his room (again rare but I do occasionally do it).
stacy
My kids usually thank me on a regular basis simply because they know I turn into a marshmallow with civility.
On the surface, this appears admirable, but who’s playing who here...rofl…
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I haven't done that in years.... It started about age 14 when he just quit bringing his laundry out of his room.. and after nagging and nagging, he eventually had to begin doing his own laundry. (we have iron water, so normally I wash elsewhere, but since he prefers to wear all black, doing laundry at home was easy for him).
Thanks,
zz
How cool that your DS has come around with the manners!!
My DS says thank you to servers at restaurants, but I'm the only one who can hear him! He keeps his head low and barely mumbles it! He's getting a little better, as he's not actually talking into his shirt anymore!
Thanks,
zz
Thanks for your reply.
I have also put a focus on manners through my son's entire life... it was very important to me.
Never got any when I was growing up. I was lucky to get out of a room without having my face slapped off, much less being apologized to later... and I can't recall being thanked for anything by my parents.
I am the antithesis of how I was raised... always saying thank you to DS, or apologizing if I'm wrong.
I agree that good manners makes for a more civil home life.
zz
Edited 12/12/2006 6:27 pm ET by cat_momma
We have tried to stress the importance of Thank You in our home. Our most excellent parenting skills are now proudly on display in our 23yo son. 16yo DD has entered the brainless time when teens believe parents are here to serve, "I mean really Mom isn't that your job." We do receive thank yous and I love yous, not as often as we would like, but enough to keep her fed and living under the same roof.
Outside our home she is a model of manners, I think this may be the case with adults as well. We often take for granted the efforts of our family members and should all remember to thank those closest to us more often. DH is the master of this, thanking me for every meal (even if he didn't like it...this may be selfish since he does want to be fed again).
Even though our teens may take us for granted at this age, they will learn by our example it will be evident when they return to normal humans.
PS. I get attention in our house by saying YOU ARE WELCOME when I feel I Thank You is in order and not received. They get the message (sometimes I get just an eye roll).
Ooh, I do the, "You're welcome!" thing even to strangers when I open a door to go through, or to open it for people with me, and whomever I wasn't opening it for blasts past and doesn't say anything...that gets my hackles up! LOL
Sue
LOL...you are my DH in living form. It absolutely rocks his core when he holds a door open and someone breezes past without acknowledging. He is employed in a large manufacturing facility and there is one woman in particular who deems it the job of all living males in her near vicinty to jump to the door she is entering to open it; all while she breezes past without a word. He is beginning to employ the Your Welcome as well.
Anna
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