Is my son on drugs
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| Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:21am |
Hello I'm new on this sight and have a question that I need some advise about. I have a son who is a great kid never been in any trouble good in school, has good friends and he comes from a great home. I was looking on his cell phone under his videos and opened one. In this video there appears to be someone sitting down looking down at a pile of white powder on what appears to be a mirror. This person proceeds to put his face down and snort the white substance up there nose like it was cocaine. When he stands up I notice it is my sons friend who I know is a great kid but I'm confused if this is really cocaine or something else. I have my husband approach my son about this matter and he says it was a joke and it was only powdered sugar. He was at a friends house and the mother knew they were doing this. I still had doubt in todays world you can never tell what kids are up to even though you think they never would do this. I thought that if his friend did this he could do this and from the sounds on the video all the other kids thought is was fun. I thought I should contact the parent of the home that the video was shot at. She did not see the video and was institely annoyed by me even questioneing the fact that these kids would even do drugs and that she would allow this in her home. She said she knew it was sugar and what is the big deal. I replied the big deal is that I was worried that the kids were taking drugs and was concered about the boy pictured in the video. She did not seem as upset about this as I did. She said she is not going to say anything to this boys parents but if I chose to that was fine. But his mother would probably not assume it was drugs either that she would think it was something else. I don't know if I'm over reacting to this issue or if other parents would have felt the way I do or just assume it was a joke and approve of this behavior.
Any advise would be great.

What's wrong with this is that this boy's mother allowed the kids to take part in an activity which glorified drug taking. Would she see a problem if they had taken empty beer bottles and filled them with pop and shot the video of them "drinking".
Sorry but I would definatly contact the other parents on this one, and have a serious talk with your son about not only drug use but also see if you can deglorify the world of drugs to him a bit.
JMO
stacy
I think that any parent willing to turn a blind eye to potential drug use is a fool, a bad parent and is not doing her son any favors by making lite of it.
The fact is, whether it was powdered sugar or not, they were simulating the use of drugs. They obviously know what to do with the drug, they know how it's used and they were play acting. IMO, that screams trouble and needs addressing.
I would most definitely contact the boy's parents and explain to them that while they've given you an explanation, you still feel alarmed by this video and their simulation of drug use enough to bring it to their attention. You simply thought they should be aware of it.
And then let it go. Keep a very watchful eye on your son. It doesn't take much to turn a straight laced, straight A student into a loser drug user. You are completely NOT out of line on this or over reacting, IMO.
Hugs~
I'd be very upset and angry if a mother had reacted this way over the video. And, at my own child who went along with it.
How can you be sure it wasn't really drugs? Are you comfortable trusting them when they say it was powdered sugar?
Might throw out a gentle reminder to parents like that..... Kids lose cell-phones all the time. If that phone turned up in the wrong hands, what would happen? The police wouldn't think it were so funny if they saw the video, now would they? I'm pretty sure they'd be checking out that family (and all the friends the boy said he was with), or at minimum contacting social services regarding the children. They would probably think the worst until proven otherwise.
And, yeah, I'd be very cautious about letting my son around these people.
Sallie
Just stopping by to agree with everyone else - you were right to be concerned, and it never ceases to amaze me how parents can turn a blind eye to this kind of behaviour.
If the kids are "playacting" drug use, how long does it take them to move to the real thing? AND.... so the kids SAY it was powdered sugar, kids dabbling in drugs are known to lie all the time. The mom who says she "knew" it was sugar - does she know that for a fact, or does she "know" it because that's what her son told her?
Everyone is right about it not taking much for a straight A kid to turn into a bottom of the barrel looser. When S was in middle school, he consistently got mostly As with one or two Bs. Sophomore year he started dabbling in drugs, junior year he got into some pretty heavy duty stuff. Third quarter junior year (when he came to our home) his GPA was 0.68! Got of whatever crap he was injesting into his system, and he spent all of senior year on high honors, I think his lowest GPA senior year was 3.8. And it's not that he was taking a lot of easy classes - he was repeating a lot of his junior year that he failed.
Rose