I'm an idiot

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I'm an idiot
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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 5:47pm
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Edited 9/1/2007 4:14 pm ET by kel7col4



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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 6:09pm

Don't be too hard on yourself. So, you got sucked in by your dd. With her history of non-complaining over injuries I would've been sucked in myself. :) I don't blame you for being angry at your dd, I would be too. But, the good thing is, she owned up to it and is now paying the price by sitting the bench. AND, apparently, she has learned something from this. I totally agree with you that she needs to go to all the practices and games. She is still part of the team, and if she were truly hurt, then that's what she would do anyway. That's probably in and of itself a pretty good lesson. I know you are mad about the $$$, but will she be able to use the gear next year? Of course, that's assuming she will go out for the team next year. If she does and she can use it all next year, then I wouldn't consider it money wasted and wouldn't pull the $$$ from her birthday money, etc. If, by next year, she decides to not go out for the team, I would try to sell the equipment that you can and then have her do chores or something to make up the rest of the $$.

Try to remember, she's still learning lots of stuff (heck, so are *we* for that matter!!) and the biggest thing I see here is that it sounds like she really learned something about life and herself thru her mistake.

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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 7:36pm

"instant attitude began. I've already decided she will go to EVERY practice and game and she can just sit there for 4 hours"

Agree with you and PP, going to each and every practice and just sitting would be a just punishment. I'd probably also make her do some things around the house for me, over and above whatever she's already supposed to do. After all, remember what her reason for complaining of the fake injury was.. to spend more time with bf. A natural consequence would be for her to actually have to spend less time with the bf.... working for mom who shelled out all that money on a sport she basically has to sit around and doesn't get to play. Sounds like a fair consequence. Remind her when the attitude starts that it's NOT a punishment, when you do things like that there are consequences, and sometimes they stink.

Best wishes!

Sallie