summer job frustration
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| Wed, 05-23-2007 - 12:17pm |
My DD worked regularly since she was 16 during the summer & the school year. This year (senior) she wanted to quit her job a couple of months ago during track season and the store was closing also, so I said ok. This is the last week of school, then exams, which she doesn't have to take, grad is on June 9 and she also signed up for college orientation from June 13-15. I assume she will be getting another summer job and she has said she expects to work, but everytime that I say that I have seen a sign that somewhere is hiring, she says "I don't want to work there." I have mentioned a drugstore, Kohl's (dept. store) and Panera Bread. All unacceptable. The one thing she didn't put down was that her friend's mother works in a hospital and said she would help her get a job there and since DD wants to be a nurse, she said she might look into that.
Her reaction yesterday was like "don't bother me". Well, I could just sit back and say nothing and then when the money runs out, it's her problem. I haven't seen her curb her spending any since she has stopped working. She still has to pay for gas and insurance. I know she has money in the bank, but I don't really want her draining the whole acct. It's not that she's totally lazy. She did babysit a couple of times and I guess they pay really well ($70 for one night!, but they have a baby and a 3 yr old who is almost blind, so I guess they want someone responsible). She also talked about leaving her car home and taking it off the road so she wouldn't have to pay for insurance.
I guess I'm worried that she will wait til the last minute and there will be no jobs available. I don't know if she will be able to work while she's in college. She's going to a state univ. w/ about 20,000 students. She didn't get work-study, so how many jobs are there going to be in that area? It's not like I'm expecting her to have some horrible job--I don't see why it would be so bad to be a cashier at Kohl's since she has worked in retail for the last 2 years.
Of course, DSD, who is a junior, didn't work at all last summer, so I'll see what she has lined up too. This year, she is driving and needs money for insurance.

I like the natural consequences approach: When she runs out of money let her feel the pinch.
My dds were also picky about where they worked also. Oy!
I think many of us baby boomers have done this generation a disservice by teaching them they are to find a job they enjoy
Seriously!
That said, I think they go for their first choices and when they dont pan out, they move to their second choices, etc
I would let it play out-just be sure you and DH are on the same page about handing out spending money or covering her bills so the natural consequences kick in
yes, it seems they are all looking for something "fun", my DD won't work in anything "food" so this includes convience stores, coffee shops, basically anything other than retails. I told her that if she doesn't have a job shortly that she will be out of funding for sure. Since she's in a college prep HS that demands a lot of HW, I've provided her cash as long as her school and home responsibilities are met. Summer's a new ball game though.