My 16 yr old son is LAZY!! HELP!!!
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My 16 yr old son is LAZY!! HELP!!!
| Sun, 10-14-2007 - 8:43am |
Wow, I just discovered this teen parenting board and I am excited to find other parents who are sometimes struggling with raising/doing the right thing with their teens!
My son, who is 16, is generally a good kid....no drugs, no alcohol, basically respectful (for the most part).

Amy,
Your son sounds like mine...he is now 17, very bright, spends time on the computer and video games, and really doesn't work much at school.....pulls those D's up to C's.
Sue,
Thank you so much for the advice!
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FWIW, Gavin is also super lazy, he won't clena his room, or contribute to the upkeep of the house. he spends HOURS on video games, and mere moments on homework. HE is adept at the gradesheet scramble and thinks that if he TELLS me that the grades are going to be bad, that I won't get so upset when i see them. He does't actually change his behavior, he just gives me a heads up in order to try and prevent my freak out. I stopped doing his laundry for him a month ago. And predictably he just moves the clena pile from the bed to the chair to the floor. It is very difficult to live in a small space and have one room be so completely disgusting and unkept. It really sets a tone for the house to have to "allow" that disarray because the solution seems to be.. "wait until Mom gets mad, and then she will come clean things up while I bitch her out for coming in my room".
After hearing him complain about being un able to find work I went online and applied for him and he starts today at the grocery store as well. But boy he is kicking and screaming about it.. well more like sighing and saying whatever about it.
Well I hope he learns responsibility and earns some money but at the very least, I am getting his behind OUT of the house for at least some of the week. He has the perfect lazybones accessory, a girlfriend with a car and a job, she drives him everywhere and pays for things, but when she is in class or at work, he is sitting in his bedroom playing World of Warcraft. In a pigsty. His position being that if he isn't being disruptive in the house I shouldn't have a problem with it. But.. he is hostile when I come in to his room to talk to him, he comes out only to eat and poop, and if I ask him to do work on HIS OWN room, he says, "yeah good luck with that". and really short of standign over him and pushing his hands to the laundry and grasping it in his fingers, I can't MAKE that child do anything. He is very passive agressive and rude to me, and can "out wait" any request I make of him. he has the ability to walk past a bag of trash that I have already sacked up and left by the front door for more than 3 days. All he has to do is get it to the dumpster, and that is too much to ask.
Woah.. that turned into a rant.
But I am tired tired tored of coming home from work, seeing the gf's car in the drive and then comign in the house to his closed doort and them not coming out for an hour or so, and her squaky little "Hi Mrs K"... he always has the "just woke up bedhead" and ays they were takig a nap.. and I believe them but have already spoken to the both of them about her constant presence in the house and he gets super angry and rude with me and says she stayes in his room and what is my problem anyway. I get angry but he is agressive and doesn't have any respect for me..
The thought of any of our kids being allowed to be alone in their room w/ their GF or BF w/ the door closed just would not happen.
I think a lot of this is based on the child's personality.