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NEED HELP! PLEASE!! WHAT TO DO!!
| Tue, 10-16-2007 - 8:02pm |
Long story short. ODS had 3 D's on his reportcard.
| Tue, 10-16-2007 - 8:02pm |
Long story short. ODS had 3 D's on his reportcard.
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If this is a once and a lifetime thing I would let him go and push his grounding back one week, or make him do extra chores for allowing him to go.
I don't think he should miss a once in a life time thing for having some D's.
If it is truly a once-in-a-lifetime chance, I would have to let him go.
The scenario you describe is exactly why I don't do grounding, and never really have.
My staff at work really messed up last week.
Totally agree.
Grounding doesn't address the problem. It presents a short term punishment with no direct correlation to the fix. I would suggest he be allowed to go on this trip, with a forewarning that upon return, there will
I have never grounded my kids either.
Okay, you didn't ask for support with your decision, just opinions- so here's mine. I'm a fairly candid person and a poor typist, so I'm just going to be as brief as possible and to the point.
I completely understand that it doesn't feel good (guilt) for him to miss such an event. However, if you don't follow through with your word, it's meaningless and cannot be trusted. I could "sweeten" this up a bit, but at the end of the day, that's the bottom line. Your children need to completely know that you say what you mean and mean what you say, end of story.
Next, something to think about with the grade thing. I desire good grades and I know my kids are capable of making them and they do quite well, but we do not have rules for grades in our house.
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Well Good Morning Daddioe! Thanks for the feedback. I believe it's important to say "I've made a mistake" and trust me, I've said that on more than one occasion. However, using it to change a consequence is in my opinion a mistake. I think there's really great lessons her for everybody involved~think before you speak and again, mean what you say.
She never mentioned regret for her decision, only regret he can't attend something "big." For me, this is the bottom line. Does that make sense? It's not as if she received new info and had an epiphany of sorts, something fun came up. Okay, big fun.
For me, I'm a believer we have to be flexible as parents~heck as people, or we couldn't grow. There's a big difference between "I lost my cool and made a mistake" and "I don't want you to miss a big opportunity." That's what makes me think differently about the situation.
Diana
I looked back to the OP and I see what you mean.
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