books for boys about sex?
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books for boys about sex?
| Wed, 10-17-2007 - 5:02pm |
I'm looking for book suggestions - frank, honest and information books about sexuality intended for boys. I'm finding there are LOTS for girls, but not much for the boys!! My son came to me at the age of 14 from a dysfunctional background, and I've finding now that he's 16.5 that he has some weird ideas about sex. Can I be direct about some of the things he's said? On the one hand his very puritanical and shaming...masturbation is wrong and DISGUSTING and he'd never do it (and I'm lead to believe that he probably IS doing it but is feeling deeply ashamed and wondering what is wrong with him), oral sex is always wrong and degrading to women, and people should be put in jail for it...but on the OTHER hand, he HAS TO lose his virginity before he is 17 (doesn't even have a real girlfriend yet) and thinks that cross-dressing for sexual gratification is totally normal (I'm not going to get into a debate on the rightness or wrongness of cross dressing, but seriously - he assumes EVERYONE does it!). Please don't ignore my post assuming I'm some bored kid making this stuff up, LOL - I'm for real! I try to straighten out stuff as it comes up (shortly after he came to live here, he asked me (very worried) if his "thing" was broken because sometimes it leaks at night - and when I explained what was going on, he worried that he'd "use it all up and never have kids".). But I wonder what ELSE he isn't asking or saying. He's never been molested, but he's seen some pretty strange stuff and has had NO decent sex education. I know he understands the plumbing and biology, but I want a book that'll answer his big questions - something I can perhaps just leave lying around for him to see if he's interested.

You may want to start with something like, "What's Happening to My Body Book for Boys" and depending on your personal
Given the crazy background A has been in, from what you've shared, I'm not surprised that he has some rather odd views of sex.
There is a website that I have found to be very helpful as far as information. I don't know if you are interested in hm looking on the internet. I have found
I second the 'What's Happening to My Body Book for Boys'. Well done and descriptive. Helped my ds dispel some of the things he'd heard at school.
Sue