Formal dances

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Formal dances
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 3:32pm
My DD15 is a sophomore and asked last night if she could go to the junior cotillion with a friend of hers (a junior) who happens to be a girl. She just recently started going out with a boy who's a junior,
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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 3:49pm

For Homecoming last year, dd cancelled out on her date a few days before the dance because he was spreading some nasty rumors about her.

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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 5:31pm
I only have boys but here it's really common for kids to go in groups to Homecoming.
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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 6:44pm

My DD went stag to all the dances freshman year and homecoming sophomore year and had a ball - pretty much went with g/fs and met up with some guys there.

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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 7:40pm

So, is this a case where anyone can go to the junior cotillion?

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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:29pm

Yes, you're right. You have to be a junior or the "date" of a junior. She would technically be this girl's "date". But it isn't a lesbian thing....they are just friends and they both want to go to the dance! I agree--I balked at first for the very same reason, but then I realized that it's a good thing that kids can do this. If I had had this option, I wouldn't have been so desperate to try to find some boy to go to my senior prom! That's why I posted this question--to see how commonplace this is, or whether it would look strange.


As it turns out, she now says she won't be going after all. When her new bf's "date" heard that my DD would be there too, she said she wouldn't go...so my DD backed out. Oh, the teen drama!

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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:31pm

It is very common here for the kids to go to dances, especially formals like this. Girls going with a group of girls and same for the guys, or with mixed groups.

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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:55pm

Very commonplace.

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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 9:33pm

But the dance that she is talking about is a 'junior' dance and no underclassmen unless they are the 'date' of a jr can go and her dd is a sophmore...

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In reply to: ejteach2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 9:39pm
See it is that 'lovely' teen drama that would worry me about her going anyway.
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