DSD is planning to move out
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DSD is planning to move out
| Fri, 11-09-2007 - 4:14pm |
I believe I wrote another message about how DH & DSD (age 17) had a big argument on Sunday because he found out she had been driving w/ friends in the car w/o her permission.

Hugs all the way around! I hope it
I wonder if she has really thought this out. If she becomes emancipated she will have to be able to provide for herself. She won't be able to stay with her friends parents forever.
I am sending you hugs and positive thoughts. I can only imagine what you are going through with this whole situation. Hang in there, things will work out in the end.
It sounds to me like she's doing the right thing.
What's most important is that she does everything she can to do well in school, and to graduate. It might be a good thing for her to stay at her friend's house. I hope this friend is not one who also slacks off in school, and that the parents in that household do pay attention to what the kids are into,in a caring, nurturing manner. If that's true, then it will be good for your DSD to be in a home where she has respect for those in authority, who in turn treat her with respect. It will free her mind so that she can study. It could be a great growing experience for her as she takes on more responsibilty to support herself. (I don't remember from your past posts if her previous stays with that family were only in summer, or if they were during the school year.)
OTOH, if her decision to leave is all about manipulation and she's making the statement to her dad, "You don't give me what I want(cell phone, car ins.), and you expect me to study more than I want to, and to obey your rules when I don't want to, then I don't need you! I'll go somewhere where I can do as I please!", it may not be the best, despite the fact that he can be abusive toward her. Time will tell. Regardless of how things progress, I think she will still look to you as a source of stability in her life.
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I am surprised she waited this long, to be honest. It's been a long time coming and at least it sounds like she's taking a mature approach by speaking with a school counselor to find out the ins and outs of emancipating herself! I knew two girls when I was her age who became emancipated from their parents and they turned out just fine. They had some decent friends to lean on and they worked various jobs and eventually they were fine - both stayed in school and graduated HS. Incidentally, one of them had a much improved relationship with her parents eventually (the other came from an extremely abusive situation, so things were different).
I hope that you will lend your support as she moves through this difficult time. It's not about taking sides as much as it is just being supportive in any way you can at this point.
Sending lots of hugs to you and yours~
The situation worked out a little differently than first expected.