What leaps at me is that you still haven't seen those photos. I would think that girls would 'play' at looking sexy and now, with technology, that is even easier. Take a pic in the privacy of your own home in your swimsuit and see which side presents best, how alluring you look, etc. I think this is a 'heads up' incident and not much else
After all, arent most girls this age obsessed with boys liking them? I don't think it matters is they are thin, fat, tall, short, outgoing, meek, gorgeous or average....it's THAT age. It's normal
Keep helping her feel good about herself in ways that dont involve appearance or clothing. This isn't your academic one, I know, so it's harder but there has to be something-volunteering, ceramics, watching kids at the Church Nursery.
I was an overweight teen and I obedience trained my poodle. The class was all adults but, looking back, they bent over backwards to help me and encourage me. The dog and I did quite well and it was a boost for me. (and something I returned to later-guess how I met DH??)
Memory Lane, huh? Point is adults helped me feel good about myself, not other teens. That may be something we tend to miss; we look only at activities with teens.
I know I'm getting in late w/ this discussion, but all along I've wondered why you haven't looked at the photos yourself. That is the first thing I would have done. I know you trust your babysitter, but why are you getting so upset just based on what she says? I've seen lots of kids posting photos on Facebook or MySpace that they consider to be "alluring"...they try to make themselves look sexy, and maybe it isn't how we would have posed at their age, but they really aren't anything to get all upset about. Of course I wouldn't want my DD posing with a come-hither look on her face, (and she doesn't!), but these aren't x-rated or even r-rated photos in most cases. I would encourage you to look at the photos and decide for yourself.
Well, just to set your mind at ease, I'm not computer expert but I don't think you've given out any info that could serve to identify your DD. But I do understand your caution.
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Hate to say this, but clean cut, nice boys do have sex with girls in the spare bedroom at parties some times.
Is this the dd that was asked to model for an agency in NYC but turned it down?
What leaps at me is that you still haven't seen those photos. I would think that girls would 'play' at looking sexy and now, with technology, that is even easier. Take a pic in the privacy of your own home in your swimsuit and see which side presents best, how alluring you look, etc. I think this is a 'heads up' incident and not much else
After all, arent most girls this age obsessed with boys liking them? I don't think it matters is they are thin, fat, tall, short, outgoing, meek, gorgeous or average....it's THAT age. It's normal
Keep helping her feel good about herself in ways that dont involve appearance or clothing.
This isn't your academic one, I know, so it's harder but there has to be something-volunteering, ceramics, watching kids at the Church Nursery.
I was an overweight teen and I obedience trained my poodle. The class was all adults but, looking back, they bent over backwards to help me and encourage me. The dog and I did quite well and it was a boost for me. (and something I returned to later-guess how I met DH??)
Memory Lane, huh? Point is adults helped me feel good about myself, not other teens. That may be something we tend to miss; we look only at activities with teens.
I would take the cellphone away and alert the school.
I know I'm getting in late w/ this discussion, but all along I've wondered why you haven't looked at the photos yourself. That is the first thing I would have done. I know you trust your babysitter, but why are you getting so upset just based on what she says? I've seen lots of kids posting photos on Facebook or MySpace that they consider to be "alluring"...they try to make themselves look sexy, and maybe it isn't how we would have posed at their age, but they really aren't anything to get all upset about. Of course I wouldn't want my DD posing with a come-hither look on her face, (and she doesn't!), but these aren't x-rated or even r-rated photos in most cases. I would encourage you to look at the photos and decide for yourself.
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