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Relationships for Dummies?
| Sun, 12-23-2007 - 5:57pm |
I ended up coming up with one idea for Christmas for dd - it's the book Relationships for Dummies.
| Sun, 12-23-2007 - 5:57pm |
I ended up coming up with one idea for Christmas for dd - it's the book Relationships for Dummies.
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Kim, honestly, I would chalk it up as inappropriate and not give it to her.
Well when you give someone an encyclopedia or a dictionary or a cookbook
I'm with you diamond, if the book is basically a good book, but some parts of it aren't quite appropraite for DD just yet, I'd still give it to her with the observation that some of it is probably a little more adult than she needs right now, but some day, she might find the information useful.
I would give her the book. It will demonstrate that you are accepting the fact that she is growing up. It's unlikely she's going to sit down and read it cover to cover. She will probably just refer to it as needed. My DD is 15. A couple of years ago I pulled out my big old hardcover copy of Every Woman's Body (it has everything in there)...I put it in her room and told both DD's that is was full of information and that they should feel free to thumb thru it and discuss it with me at any time.
I don't think a chapter on sex is going to change or influence what your DD is going to do in that regard. It may give her some helpful info. It's not porn. Well, I'm not familiar with the book, but I am with that series and am assuming its a reference written by someone of authority. It does sound like she's already well beyond the *does he like me phase*...
I think it's a great gift and I wish I'd gotten it for my DD.
Edited 12/24/2007 8:06 am ET by themamas
If a majority of the book has information they can benefit from, then go for it. I see nothing wrong with that at all.
She's having sex isn't she? IMO, if they are pretending to be adults and struggling to have an adult relationship, then why not give THEM the book. Who knows? Maybe the book will offer them some insight into all the arguing they do, or how perhaps having a sexual relationship has taken the emphasis away from their emotional connection. I'm sure the book covers the importance of being in a mutually safe and loving, communicative and emotionally intimate relationship and that sex is a complement to those already existing factors. In fact, I see nothing wrong with your skimming through the book and then later pointing that out to her. Perhaps the book will illuminate things about their relationship that they can work on...you just never know.
I think she's ready for that book.
FWIW, I meant to post this on Rose's board *blush*
I appreciate everyone's thoughts on this so much.
LOL I let you know her reaction to it.
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