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| Thu, 12-27-2007 - 7:57pm |
My 16 y.o. DD is a very even-tempered kid. She never gets very emotional about things, at least not on the outside. She loves to laugh and gets along great w/ people. In fact, I'm kind of frustrated that I've spent most of this school break driving her around to her many social engagements. Then just now, we were joking around with her at the dinner table. I guess I hit a nerve--it had something to do w/ her ex-bf--and she ended up sobbing at the table, and everyone made me out to be the bad guy. I don't get it! I'm pretty sensitive to other people's feelings. We all joke around w/ each other all the time. Sheesh. I hate to say it, but is it PMS?? I always hated when my DH accused me of that when I was upset about something.
How do I get to be the bad guy here, when I've spent every day this week devoted to driving her around, taking her to the mall, giving her money for one thing after another....?! Maybe she just needs some down time. She's a very private person & usually needs lots of quiet time alone in her room, which she hasn't had lately because she has spent so much time w/ different friends.

((((((((Hugs EJ))))))))
Don't ya just hate it when they make you feel this way!!!
Hey teach,
Well I have to agree! Sounds like a big PMS thing going on and all the running around this time of year. Do you remember being that age, all those hormones, LoL not unlike mine now or lack of LoL. I think you just hit the nerve at the right time. Even though you played taxi all week you were the one that said it, so sorry you turn into the bad guy(sorta speek)Giver her some "down" time as you called it and she
Update: It's even more complicated than I thought. She's upset because I joked about a mistake she made when she was going out with the ex-bf (went over to his house when she knew she wasn't allowed). Also, it's just the fact that I joked about the ex-bf at all that set her off. Apparently, he has broken up w/ his 5th girlfriend since he dumped my DD back in April, and the word is out that he wants to get back together w/ my DD. Apparently, she has said "no way", but it looks like she is still hurting over the whole experience. You may remember I posted just the other day about how much I like the new bf she's had for the past couple of months. I'm worried that even though her head has told her to reject that other loser, she still obviously cares, or why would she get so upset about nothing?!
aw, ej, I'm so sorry everyone made you out to be the bad guy.
I think most people would consider my DD to be fairly even-tempered, too. But we still have those major melt-down moments that seem to come out of nowhere. I think it's a combination of being a teen where emotions are strong and very close to the surface, and that it's OK to vent/lose it with mom (and hold it together for everyone else). My DD seldom loses it in front of my DH, so for a while he thought I was exaggerating - then one day he saw it, and realizes it's part of teenagedom.
Sorry to hear your DD is having such a hard time - even when a kid knows what they want (or don't want) there's still alot of emotion tied to it.
(((HUGS))
Sue
Sue, mom to Leah and Seth
ej, this may sound odd, but when I read that, I thought about whenever I divorced my xh,
This sounds so much like my DD last year. Her former boyfriend turned out to be quite a player. It became problematic because everything I discussed with her and warned her about came to pass. I was not about to do an "I told you so" number on her, so I left it alone after they broke up.
It turned out my silence was deafening. I once casually asked if a
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