She handled it all though-that's what is important. My oldest sold all his anime collection on Ebay anout that age. Didnt buy insurance. It got lost in shipment(or so the receiving party said) He was out a huge sum of money and I felt awful for him. But you can bet he will never make THAT mistake again.
It's hard watching them make their mistakes but it has to happen(or they will be living in our basements at 30)
Not my cup of tea although I learned a long time ago not to say 'never' ;)
Certainly if my boys need to be at home, I will welcome them with open arms but it's not something we actively encourage
The 22 yr old old is so tired from work and school. With the holidays he was working 50+ hrs a week and he had taken 3 classes that semester. He is doing two classes this time and the hours should reduce. But we reminded him that if he wanted to go FT we would pay his living expenses(and I think we did it in a non judgmental way-IOW not "you should have done FT from the beginning" but 'if it will help...')
He refused so either he is very independent about all this or he still feels we are trying to control him-who knows? But he has been on his own except for tuition and books for a couple years now and the 20 yr old is handling the apartment year round well-I did take him on another grocery run 2 weeks ago but that was the first time since Aug.
Of course, I wanted them to stay over on Xmas Eve and they refused-LOL. Im sure I had visions of excited little boys waking me up so they could open their presents. I got "no way and the earliest we will be here tomorrow will be 1030"
Im proud of their independence but a little sad too! It's like looking bad at some of the things we now feel we rushed when they were little. Will I feel that way about not having them at home longer?
Oh well, I can always keep the 16 yr old in the basement
Sounds like she is a bit stressed. It has nothing to do with being immature or only being 18. We all get that way sometimes.
Adults of 40 locked their keys in their cars. Adults of 40 leave their purses on park benches. Adults of 40 get confused about the fine print and use the wrong checks. Adults of 40 don't always plan shopping trips. It happens.
Stress can do that. It's too bad that your DH was not more sympathetic but,sorry to say this dear musiclover12, is that much of a surprise? From what you have written about your DH he has problems given constructive criticism. Granted, it is hard to do.
You known, even though your DD doesn't like your DSD and wasn't home when your DSD moved out, I wouldn't be surprised that the stress you and DH have been going through is not affecting your other kids. Your DD could also have some trouble adjusting to being away and coming home again. There has been a lot of changes in her life these last few months and also changes at home.
I've done some silly things too in my life. While driving across Canada by myself as a young woman, I locked my keys in my running car in downtown Winnipeg, just before 5pm. Fortunately, I parked just in front of a barber shop. I walked into the shop, put on my most helpless female in distress look and had 3 middle age men run out and start breaking into my car. Problem solved.
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Isn't THAT the truth!!!!!
She handled it all though-that's what is important. My oldest sold all his anime collection on Ebay anout that age. Didnt buy insurance. It got lost in shipment(or so the receiving party said) He was out a huge sum of money and I felt awful for him. But you can bet he will never make THAT mistake again.
It's hard watching them make their mistakes but it has to happen(or they will be living in our basements at 30)
It's hard watching them make their mistakes but it has to happen(or they will be living in our basements at 30)
This is DH's biggest fear, I think.
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Not my cup of tea although I learned a long time ago not to say 'never' ;)
Certainly if my boys need to be at home, I will welcome them with open arms but it's not something we actively encourage
The 22 yr old old is so tired from work and school. With the holidays he was working 50+ hrs a week and he had taken 3 classes that semester. He is doing two classes this time and the hours should reduce. But we reminded him that if he wanted to go FT we would pay his living expenses(and I think we did it in a non judgmental way-IOW not "you should have done FT from the beginning" but 'if it will help...')
He refused so either he is very independent about all this or he still feels we are trying to control him-who knows? But he has been on his own except for tuition and books for a couple years now and the 20 yr old is handling the apartment year round well-I did take him on another grocery run 2 weeks ago but that was the first time since Aug.
Of course, I wanted them to stay over on Xmas Eve and they refused-LOL. Im sure I had visions of excited little boys waking me up so they could open their presents. I got "no way and the earliest we will be here tomorrow will be 1030"
Im proud of their independence but a little sad too! It's like looking bad at some of the things we now feel we rushed when they were little. Will I feel that way about not having them at home longer?
Oh well, I can always keep the 16 yr old in the basement
Sounds like she is a bit stressed. It has nothing to do with being immature or only being 18. We all get that way sometimes.
Adults of 40 locked their keys in their cars. Adults of 40 leave their purses on park benches. Adults of 40 get confused about the fine print and use the wrong checks. Adults of 40 don't always plan shopping trips. It happens.
I agree w/ that one.
Stress can do that. It's too bad that your DH was not more sympathetic but,sorry to say this dear musiclover12, is that much of a surprise? From what you have written about your DH he has problems given constructive criticism. Granted, it is hard to do.
You known, even though your DD doesn't like your DSD and wasn't home when your DSD moved out, I wouldn't be surprised that the stress you and DH have been going through is not affecting your other kids. Your DD could also have some trouble adjusting to being away and coming home again. There has been a lot of changes in her life these last few months and also changes at home.
I've done some silly things too in my life. While driving across Canada by myself as a young woman, I locked my keys in my running car in downtown Winnipeg, just before 5pm. Fortunately, I parked just in front of a barber shop. I walked into the shop, put on my most helpless female in distress look and had 3 middle age men run out and start breaking into my car. Problem solved.
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I'm 46 now and still pulling these same stunts.