Parental Meltdown--

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Parental Meltdown--
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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 10:58am

There's no way to backtrack out of THIS ONE....My 17 DS was on the receiving end of my manipulative side this week.........now mind you, I am sick, and think this may have played into it, but it can't be un-said........ugh......what a mess.


I tend to be self centered---I tend to want the world to revolve around me.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:05am

I'd leave it. You apologized and he heard you.

Did he end up going to your dad's, or not? If he did decide to go, you could casually mention something about how your dad appreciates your ds's company. If he did not go...say nothing more.

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:20am
I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. So, you're not perfect. Who is? I think that's a good lesson for him to learn. And teens are so self-centered, that sometimes it does get to us after we've told them over and over how they need to consider other people's feelings. I've had a couple of meltdowns like this with my DD recently. I think it all just gets to be too much. We all deserve to be a little selfish sometimes! Lord knows our kids are!
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Registered: 02-25-2002
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:23am

I think an apology is sufficient. Never give a kid too much power, and that's what will happen if you even show an inkling of guilt.


Hang in there. Recognizing a problem is the first stop is correcting it, right? And we're all entitled to be selfish now and again. We're only human.

 

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:28am

He went, but on his own..he didn't go with the rest of us...he drove out later (my dad lives about 25 miles from us).


"Guilting' people into doing what you want isn't productive for ANYBODY.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:31am

When I get like this, it is usually reflecting what I am truly feeling but in regards to another party, be it DH or a work situation. The kid is usually the proverbial straw but it is 'easier' to let loose on the kid than your boss.

You apologized-you see your mistake and are looking not to make it again-let it go

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Registered: 10-29-2003
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:49am

Wind,

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:56am

Regular exercise can help with many PMS symptoms. I don't mean run out and become a gym rat...but I do a half hour of exercise (to the tV) daily...have my entire adult life. When I do miss several days in a row (like now I have a flu bug) I can definitely feel the difference. My emotions are more rampant , especially. If nothing else I like to at least walk. Don't know why this helps, but it does.


The first day I was sick, I came down and walked into the kitchen and both sinks were overflowing with dishes. I lost it. I went back upstairs, and when I came back down later the 3 kids had cleaned it all up. They better have! It infuriates me that after all I've taught them, they still have to be told certain things. Jeesh!

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 12:11pm

I walk 2+ miles a day listening to books on tape(well, on Ipod)The stress relief benefit was something I didnt expect. As someone said, I can really tell the difference when I miss more than a day(I braved the cold yesterday and ended up slipping on a patch of ice anyway-luckily just bruised a knee)

I recommend it. Subscribing to Audible really helped motivate me. I only let myself listen to the book if I walk. In better weather, I was actually out at 10pm walking to get to the next part of the book

And walk alone-no kids, Dh-I wont even take the dog-its MY time

I feel I cruised through menopause myself but then so did my mom so maybe it's related. I think I was more of a witch pre period than at any time during menopause. For me it was a relief(and likely for my family ;))

I know there are 'natural' remedies for menopause-if you think you are flirting with that! Be worth a try if dr okays them. I also know women who have done anti depressants at this time-problem is(well, that would be an opinion)is that they tend to stay on them. Maybe they are afraid to go off but maybe they would be okay without? Dont know

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Registered: 08-26-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 12:50pm

Hey there...


I have always had major pms issues and yes it causes me to behave in a mannor that sometimes I just can't believe it was me :(

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 1:19pm
There's been times, before I started my meds, that I'd be like outside of my body watching myself complain or carry on about something, and I'd be like...shut up! Much better off now.

 

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