You never know!

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Registered: 01-07-2008
You never know!
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Mon, 01-07-2008 - 12:44am

I thought I knew my 17 year-old son. I guess I was wrong. I raised our son to always respect the law, and NEVER, EVER drink and drive.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 9:19am

Peer pressure is an amazing thing. Peer pressure when one if under the influence is especially strong!

I am glad no one was hurt. Hopefully, this was a wake up call.

My boys both got speeding tickets right out of the gate. DS1 even lost his license for 6 mos because he had 2 so close together. They are 20 and 22 now and have had nothing since that first year. DS2's GF complains he drives too slow, in fact.

I am shocked it made such an impression(unlike my preaching and drivers ed. I assumed they would have that 'I wont get caught' thing going on but apparently getting caught puts a dent in that way of thinking.

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 9:46am

You are so right, you never know...it is a blessing no one was hurt...and I am amazed at how you handled it...well done. He has probably learned his lesson. He is lucky; he can go off to college and be ready for a fresh start when he graduates. No DUI's or DWI's, no tragedies...


My son also made a poor choice behind the wheel when he was 17, it didn't involve alcohol, but it did involve driving an icy mountain road, that was c-l-o-s-e-d...thank God his vehicle went off the road on the uphill side...


Blessings...

 

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 10:21am

"My husband and I always told our son that no matter what the circumstance is, to never get into a car and drink and drive or get into a car with someone who is. Call us and we will get you."

We all tell our kids that. I blame their undeveloped frontal lobes for doing dumb things, despite our warnings. As a senior at age 17, my DS got into a car with someone who'd drunk last year and we found out four days later after the school had questioned the guys and they told the truth. DS said his friend had only one beer and appeared fine, and that was why he got in the car with him. He'd ridden with DH and me many times after we had a drink with dinner. Still, with his friend, he should've known it's illegal. Luckily, there were no traffic violations and no accidents. The school's punishment was ridiculously severe and a bunch of kids, and parents, lost all respect for the administrators because of the way they handled it. I would have rather seen them get caught by the police, even if he'd gotten an MIP.

On New Year's Eve he told us he drank a 6-pak and that they had a designated driver. I hope it's true that the driver was not drinking. As you say, you never know. I was not happy he'd drunk that much. We always tell him that as soon as you get past 1/hr or 3/night, your brain can be affected so that you are not aware of what you're doing, and you can get in all sorts of trouble without realizing it. He did well his first semester in college so I don't think he's partying WAY too much, but I'm not sure he's limiting his drinking as much as he should be.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 10:25am

Oh gosh!

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Registered: 07-19-2003
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 11:59am

I'm so glad that your son is okay and that he was caught before anything happened to him, his friend or someone else.

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Registered: 08-17-2005
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 4:11pm

Thank you for pointing out that honor roll students are not perfect.

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 4:58pm

I never thought my son would do something like this. He is an honor roll student and the recipient of a college scholarship for 4 years.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 5:24pm

(I was right there with you, and ds is right there with your dd - with a great head on his shoulders so far!)


Sue

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Registered: 10-31-2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 6:09pm
Well I have to put in my 2 cents.................First I am very glad nothing happened to your son............I always said *kids* act so much different in front of parents then their friends..........no matter how much we talk to them and we think they talk to us they are just different..................... "Put your son in sports that will straighten them out or keep them



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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 7:08pm
Thank goodness he didn't hurt anyone else or himself!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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