From bad to worse?

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From bad to worse?
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 10:21am

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Edited 2/19/2008 6:24 pm ET by kel7col4



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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 10:38am

Oh Kim,


I'm sorry to hear this :(

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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 10:45am

Yea, I agree, at 15 you can still steer her away from the dating scene for a while.


In all fairness, who wouldn't like to bask in a little glory and attention now and again, but sometimes you just have to reel them in. Especially if it's hurting someone else.


Now I know why my stepmother did not allow me to date. at all. she told me when I was 18, so I left home at 17. And wouldn't you know it, I fell in love immediately...

 

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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:04am

Sorry to hear that, Kim. We don't often hear of our tamer DSs going after the wild girls, but for some reason, wholesome (that's an old word, isn't it?) girls are attracted to the risk-taking guys.

If I were you I'd try to have him come to your home so you can get to talk to him before they go out snowboarding, or anywhere else. Maybe invite him to dinner, or go out for dinner? I think it's always good for bfs/gfs to know you are interested in, and respect them as individuals; hopefully they will then, in turn, respect you and your DD.

It's good your DD is going for counseling.

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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:09am

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Edited 2/19/2008 6:24 pm ET by kel7col4



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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:26am

Kim,


Just thought I would give you my two cents.

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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:28am

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Edited 2/19/2008 6:25 pm ET by kel7col4



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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:00pm

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Edited 2/19/2008 6:25 pm ET by kel7col4



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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 7:52am
I don't know if this is what you want to hear, but I think you need to take a couple of steps back here, and let your DD figure some of this out for herself. I agree with others that the older boy is probably not a good idea, and you should set some limits, but otherwise....she's got to ride this rollercoaster by herself, and take the bumps along the way. You can be there to listen to the venting, provide some support and some advice (but she may not want to hear it), and give her some guidelines. But she has to handle it herself. How you feel about J is just not relevant. I understand that you're venting here and looking for support, but I hope that the fact that you like and miss J is not communicated to your DD or to J.

Sue, mom to Leah and Seth


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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 9:47am

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Edited 2/19/2008 6:25 pm ET by kel7col4