I've said it before, I can't stand messes...but it doesn't sound like your DD is lazy, or that, like mine, she just doesn't care, as shown by the fact that she helps out in summer. Maybe she just needs help organizing her time, a checklist? Maybe some furthur motivation? We know what they just don't get...if you pick up regularly, it's far easier to maintain. Wait until its huge, and it's overwhelming.
Yup, I'm the same. Could you be a closet engineer, by the way?
During the school year, both kids work very hard in school. They have lots of homework. I did not get on their case because I knew they were doing what was really important. I close the doors to their rooms.
The point is life is too short. NO ONE ON THEIR DEATH BED REGRETS THAT THEY SHOULD HAVE CLEANED MORE! There are also so more important issues and concerns to be worried about in life.
Well, I haven't been a SAHM since my girls were 4 and 6, so they've always had weekly chores and were expected to help around the house. As they grew older it was more and more difficult to have the same control and expectations over how clean they kept their room but helping around the house was never an issue (until recently - more on that later).
What we do and many people we know also do is - messy bedroom or space and no social life... it works and the stuff gets done!
We are working on me not being the only one in the game too. It is hard to renegotiate after doing it all. We have sat down around this issue as a family and have come up with a game plan and consequences. When the boys hot Middle School they became responsible for their own laundry - lol - the youngest is the best at this. I think too - letting go of some of the neat-nick things helps too. I had to make peace with the fact that there are simply some things I had to let go of.
Good luck
Courtney
I pray my wish, will come true, for my child, and your child too...
>>>Actually, H is the messiest person in the house to be honest.<<<
OK, here's my question - how do you get H to help/clean without nagging? My DH is great at doing a "big" cleaning - scrubbed both bathrooms before DD's friends came over for dinner - but does very very little on the daily or weekly stuff. We are getting ready to move, and I'd love to set some new standards in our new house. If I say "Saturday morning is cleaning day", I could see DH agreeing at first, but then letting it go slack and leaving me to nag/remind.
My DD is a little bit of a slob, too, but will help when reminded - but the "when reminded" bugs me, because (again) it's me doing the reminding or nagging. Actually, last night she cleaned the kitchen without being asked! I was so happy. I think it was because she wanted me to come watch "How to look good naked" with her, but I'll take it for whatever reason!
Actually, last night she cleaned the kitchen without being asked! I was so happy. I think it was because she wanted me to come watch "How to look good naked" with her, but I'll take it for whatever reason!
Score one for you, mom! Isn't that a treat? So how was that show and what was the premise? I only saw it advertised last night...
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DD 18 is still very messy.
Sounds exactly like our place. To a tee...
DD will create a pig sty during the school week and clean it up on the weekends. I made a deal with her a while back that seems to be working:
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I've said it before, I can't stand messes...but it doesn't sound like your DD is lazy, or that, like mine, she just doesn't care, as shown by the fact that she helps out in summer. Maybe she just needs help organizing her time, a checklist? Maybe some furthur motivation? We know what they just don't get...if you pick up regularly, it's far easier to maintain. Wait until its huge, and it's overwhelming.
Daddioe, you kill me.
Thank you for the suggestions....Maybe we can instill some of those ideas this weekend.
Yup, I'm the same. Could you be a closet engineer, by the way?
During the school year, both kids work very hard in school. They have lots of homework. I did not get on their case because I knew they were doing what was really important.
I close the doors to their rooms.
The point is life is too short.
NO ONE ON THEIR DEATH BED REGRETS THAT THEY SHOULD HAVE CLEANED MORE!
There are also so more important issues and concerns to be worried about in life.
Someone once told me, be happy there are shoes around to trip over (as long as you don't get hurt), because before you know it they will be gone.
I think everyone has a "filth tolerance level" as I call it, which may be different from person to person (mine if very low and my DH, DS & DD's
Well, I haven't been a SAHM since my girls were 4 and 6, so they've always had weekly chores and were expected to help around the house. As they grew older it was more and more difficult to have the same control and expectations over how clean they kept their room but helping around the house was never an issue (until recently - more on that later).
EVERY Saturday morning is cleaning day and no one
What we do and many people we know also do is - messy bedroom or space and no social life... it works and the stuff gets done!
We are working on me not being the only one in the game too. It is hard to renegotiate after doing it all. We have sat down around this issue as a family and have come up with a game plan and consequences. When the boys hot Middle School they became responsible for their own laundry - lol - the youngest is the best at this. I think too - letting go of some of the neat-nick things helps too. I had to make peace with the fact that there are simply some things I had to let go of.
Good luck
Courtney
I pray my wish, will come true, for my child, and your child too...
Courtney
There's a great big beautiful tomorrow shining at the end of every day... there's a great big beautiful tom
>>>Actually, H is the messiest person in the house to be honest.<<<
OK, here's my question - how do you get H to help/clean without nagging? My DH is great at doing a "big" cleaning - scrubbed both bathrooms before DD's friends came over for dinner - but does very very little on the daily or weekly stuff. We are getting ready to move, and I'd love to set some new standards in our new house. If I say "Saturday morning is cleaning day", I could see DH agreeing at first, but then letting it go slack and leaving me to nag/remind.
My DD is a little bit of a slob, too, but will help when reminded - but the "when reminded" bugs me, because (again) it's me doing the reminding or nagging. Actually, last night she cleaned the kitchen without being asked! I was so happy. I think it was because she wanted me to come watch "How to look good naked" with her, but I'll take it for whatever reason!
Sue, mom to Leah and Seth
Actually, last night she cleaned the kitchen without being asked! I was so happy. I think it was because she wanted me to come watch "How to look good naked" with her, but I'll take it for whatever reason!
Score one for you, mom! Isn't that a treat? So how was that show and what was the premise? I only saw it advertised last night...
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