Should I inform the school...?

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Should I inform the school...?
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Fri, 01-18-2008 - 10:00pm

My DD (14) was recently diagnosed with major depression and social anxiety.

Leslie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 10:20pm

I would - just in case anything were to happen so they aren't totally clueless.




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Registered: 10-25-2006
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 10:21pm

It depends on...a lot: How well you know the counselors, whether your dd would be upset about your sharing the info, whether you need them to watch out for her, etc. If the only reason is that her grades were suffering, I'd try to keep it confidential and just tell the teachers that she's having some personal problems, without going into detail.

When I was concerned about DS last year, I did ask his favorite teacher if DS appeared to be okay in school, because his behavior at home had me sooooo worried. And I did request that he keep it confidential. If I had known a counselor well enough to trust her, I might have gone to her. I'd like to believe that all school personnel would keep things confidential, but I know for a fact they do not. So out of respect for our children, we need to be careful about how much info we divulge to them.

I hope you've found a good therapist to help your dd. Don't be afraid to try another if things don't click with the first one.

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Registered: 07-19-2003
Fri, 01-18-2008 - 10:53pm

Although I'd love to think that school counselors and teachers are qualified to understand issues like clinical depression and social anxiety, I would say that the majority have received no special training.

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Registered: 08-12-2007
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 5:37am

defentaly let the school know!, they can help her, the higher grades get harder and herschool work my suffer for that. schools are gtting much better about helping kids with emtional problems. my oldest daughter who is 19 is very smart but she has socail angzity and was a cutter, when she was in school they did not do much and she endeded up getting her ged. but now they work with the familys and the kids to help them get thru school my 12 years old is in the iep class she has some learning problems and angxity this year she is bringing home all 90! my son who is 7 is in the iep class to he has alot more issues. but it is a big help

shannon

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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 7:01am

I would say IF it manifests itself in her grades, THEN I'd tell them. DS15 is just now getting help for test anxiety, and the college and career counselor finds it imperative to get it on record so that perhaps he can take the ACT and other classroom tests with accomodations which will then help his GPA and getting into college (GPA is way down from middle school due to the increased level of tests and thus anxiety as well). FWIW.

Sue

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 9:39am
I would. We let my DD's school know about her panic disorder, and I'm so glad we did. We have the BEST school counselor. She gave my DD a pass to be able to leave class and come to her anytime she was feeling overwhelmed. They are there to help the students. My DD is very comfortable with her counselor and can tell her anything.
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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 10:04am
Absolutley!
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Registered: 08-17-2005
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 12:22pm
I was in your exact position two years ago with my dd.

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 4:19pm


They are in Canada.

It is called the Privacy Act.

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Registered: 06-25-2007
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 4:34pm
doesn't mean they follow it. i was very close with my high school teachers who had just graduated and they gossiped about the kids to us almost as much as we did.

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