Mean Girl - Chapter 2
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Mean Girl - Chapter 2
| Sun, 01-20-2008 - 2:13pm |
Even after my 13 y.o. DS apologized to that ridiculous girl (over their online "argument"),
| Sun, 01-20-2008 - 2:13pm |
Even after my 13 y.o. DS apologized to that ridiculous girl (over their online "argument"),
What an awful story - I'm so sorry your DS is going through this!
Of course you are angry. I would be barely containing myself.
Did your DD say something or at least make it very clear that she will not stand for bad mouthing her brother? The next time this happens, all your DD needs to say is something along the line "hey, you are talking about my brother" or just get up and walk away.
What always gets me about this sort of behaviour is exactly WHAT this girl expects to gain from all this?
"Well, the maternal instinct kicked in. You probably know what I mean--the feeling of extreme anger you get when someone messes with one of your kids? (Please tell me it isn't just me! LOL) "
Oh cmmon EJ, you know every one of us here has this instinct....and I would guess others besides me have felt that at times....we could lift a small car with the steam comming from our ears *grin*
I am soooooooooo sorry for your DS and I would say that I understand that DD doesn't want to get involved, but she is older and maybe you could let her know that the power that she holds could put all of this to an end.
Hi EJ,
First, I'd like to say that your son seems to have shown remarkable restraint in the situation, as well as exhibiting great friendship qualities in that, upon believing that he'd somehow offended this girl, he attempted to apologize and to smooth things over with her. Apologizing isn't always the easiest thing to do, particularly when you didn't really do anything wrong.
Secondly, I'd venture to guess that whatever the girl's problem is, it didn't start with him and it won't end with him. It's a shame that there is so much desperation and need in the lives and hearts of people. It's a shame that the only way that some people know how to deal with that desperation and need is to lash out and hurt others. From the scenarios you've described of her trying to turn his friends away and taking the seat next to his sister, it sounds like she very much wants what he has. It may be his personal qualities, it may be his family life... who knows? The girl, herself, probably doesn't even know.
Sadly, she probably won't come around (at least not for a while), though - in all likelihood - she'll hone in on someone else before too long. In the meantime, your son can rest in the fact that she can never truly "take his seat"... that what she wants isn't something that can be gained through manipulation. And also that hate is a thing to be pitied, as - in the big picture - it is far harder on her soul than it is on his.
Best wishes for your son. Having been treated similarly before, and watched my own daughters deal with this, I know it's not an easy situation for him. Or for you.
-S
Sorry to hear this girl continues to be little snot. I'd continue to encourage your son to stay on higher ground and have as little to do with her as possible.
Just to clarify, my DD wants to stay out of it because she wants to keep her social life as separate as possible from her brother's. Also, this girl has already done something to meddle w/ DD's relationship with her boyfriend. I don't know what that was all about, but I