In Limbo...

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Registered: 11-28-2000
In Limbo...
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 1:48pm

Hi All,


Haven't written in awhile because everything has been fine for a few months with my DD 17, but have been reading regularly.

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Registered: 08-17-2005
In reply to: lindalintonen
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 2:37pm

I'm probably not the best one to give you advise - I think it's nuts that they've been going out for two years when they were both so young.

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Registered: 12-14-2006
In reply to: lindalintonen
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 7:46pm

Don't have BTDT experience, but I think it's very unusual for kids to date the same person from 16 to 18 - they change so much over this time period! OTOH, I know three adult couples who met in HS, and have longtime marriages - so it can happen.

It may be that there's part of him that doesn't know if he wants to be so tied down just yet - the vacation in March sounds wonderful, but it's almost like they're already married and maybe he got a little freaked out.

If this were my DD, I'd advise her to give him some space and see if they want to take a break or get back together - she can't *force* him to want to be with her, so she may have to spend some time apart from him.

Sue, mom to Leah and Seth


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Registered: 02-14-2000
In reply to: lindalintonen
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 9:30pm
I'm with Marie and Sue - to date someone for 2 years at this age is very rare - kids change SO much during the teen years.
Pam
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Registered: 11-28-2000
In reply to: lindalintonen
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:42am

Thanks for your input, it helps a lot. When we booked the cruise 6 months ago, (it is 7 days, we just have one day where we are actually doing the same tour, but dinner is every night) we asked both of them if they think they'd still be together. They both said "why not?" and my DD said even if we aren't, we'd still be friends. So we'll just wait and see.


It will be a good learning experience for both of them if they aren't "together" but remain friends.


BF hasn't decided on school yet.