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|Wed, 05-02-2001 - 9:10am|
Hi this is my first post in this section, I'm glad there a people here to talk to.
My mom has AD and my Dad died 11 years ago. She has been on her own up until 9 months ago, when she hurt her leg and didn't know how. I moved her into my apartment with my husband and 10 year old daughter. Well, I can't take anymore, so we are putting her in a nursing home. My question is, How do you handle it?
It is breaking my heart to have to send her away, but my family is falling apart. She ruins my daughter's school projects, she thinks they are hers.
We humor her and then take our frustrations out on each other. I dread hearing her bedroom door open in the morning.
My daughter is failing all her classes. I want to scream when my Mom says the same sentence over and over. - she also talks baby talk constantly. Last week I almost had a nervous breakdown. My daughter was having a hrd time with her log cabin project and my mother thought it was her project, and was panicking about getting it done.
I get no support from the rest of my family (I have 10 siblings). apparrantly they think I will take care of everything - even when I ask for help. This adds to the frustration. I know she will be better off in an AD facility. She will have things to do during the day. She will have the supervision she needs.
She doesn't know where she is or how she got here, so the transition will be easy for her once she's there. She is physically healthy and I know soon she will start to wander. She has set my stove on fire. - Thank God my husband was home to put it out.
I talked to the hospital social worker and he convinced me that she needs more supervision and should go to an alzheimer's facility. He gave me all the info I need to get things started. He also said that if she wandered off, or got hurt while she was here alone, I could be charged will elder neglect and they would launch an investigation (we live in Mass.). I know she has to go. This is very difficult.
I can't tell her she has to go. She is afraid of nursing homes because her mother was in one. How do you prepare for something like this?
Thanks for listening - I needed this.