Need Help with breakup!!!!
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Need Help with breakup!!!!
| Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:49pm |
Its been little over a month since he broke up with me. we were togther for 2 yrs. i understand why he broke up with me and all, but i need help to get over it. the situation that caused us to break up is someting i will always remember and it will always remind me of him, so its a little harder..i dont know what to do. i did tell him we cant be friends anymore, b/c it hurts too much. but does anyone have any tips, on how to stop crying all the time..its draining me emotionally and physically...he is not doing the same over me i know..so what i can i do to get over it?

how do you do that you say? i think what i've learend from myself and others on this board is that its a day by day thing. and its a back and forth thing. some days will be okay, some will be a lot harder. but time will make it all better. i know tha tmight not be what you want to hear, but i promise you with more time behind you, the days of crying yourself to sleep and feeling empty in side get fewer and farther between, and you will slowly grow into yourself again. you dont knwo what your ex is doing to get over you--and it doesnt matter. its about YOU now. in the beginning you have to be patient with yoruself. acknowledge that you're in pain for a legitimate reason and that its okay to be upset.
the next important step is to KEEP BUSY! if you allow yourself to sit around and ruminate it will only make things worse. do whatever takes to have fun again, you know? meet up with old friends, read, write, watch movies you've always wanted to watch, go out to eat, enjoy the summer. hang out in the park, take a weekend trip somewhere with a friend. maybe take an art class or a yoga class or something, just get involved in some kind of new activity. and talk to people. talk about what you're thinking, post on this board, get your feelings off your chest, vent and allow yourself to be upset because its okay !
just remmeber it DOES get better. i promise you, its all about time, and although right now what you're feeling is so suffocating and you cant imagine it ever getting better i guarantee that it will! try not to lose hope and keep posting on this board and sharing stories with us. this is a great support networkf or me and it can be for you too.